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Are you being assertive in the right way?

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Another empowering workshop completed.  This time we were sharing the incredible benefits of being assertive in the right way. In this session we gave attendees tools and techniques to enhance their assertiveness.  Using ‘I’ in statements along with naming their feelings in a given situation, be it negative or positive.

Using ‘I’ not ‘You’ when starting sentences

By starting your sentence with I feel sad, I feel glad, I feel irritated etc puts the onus on you as these are your feelings not the person you are talking to.  You’re not backing the other person into a corner as is often the case when we start our sentence with ‘you’ make me sad etc. Followed by describing the other persons behaviour to them and what you would like them to do.

One of the many examples we worked on was: I feel really irritated when we set a rota to take it in turns to do the dishes. But when it’s your turn you don’t do it. And I’d like you to do your agreed share. The key then is to remain quiet and wait for the other person’s response as they have a right to reply.

Listening and acknowledge others

If the other person starts their sentence with a ‘yes but no but’ which is often the case, you simply need to listen and acknowledge them. Then repeat exactly what you initially said. This is called the Broken Record Technique, another crucial tool for assertiveness.

Eliminating potential arguments

By using ‘I’ statements we eventually if not instantly eliminate any potential argument. Reducing any need to get stressed, irritated and depressed as is often the case when not being listened to.

Interested in attending some of our other workshops? Then contact Irwin Edgehill Training to find out more via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Dare to do the right thing

Always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences

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Have you ever avoided making a decision, failed to attend an important meeting or not completed an activity because of the possible consequences? Have you ever reflected on your decision and in hindsight regretted it? I’m guessing the answer is probably ‘YES’.

During a recent workshop I was running on Emotional Intelligence someone asked Tony, a successful businessman: “With your busy schedule how come you are here today?” He gestured and replied: “I can’t afford to miss a session like this one. Even if it means I might lose out on a sale or have a backlog of emails to answer and calls to make when I get back to the office.”

It then occurred to me that Tony was ‘daring to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. Which made me wonder how many other people ‘dare to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. For example do people dare do the right thing in their relationships whether they be business, platonic or romantic? Do people dare do the right thing with their health and the health of their loved ones?

This topic resonated with everyone in the workshop so much that we used the rest of the session to stay with it. We all identified and reflected on some of our own life choices and decisions. We challenged ourselves to consider whether we would make the same decisions again if we were daring to do the right thing. You can probably guess that many participants felt they would have acted differently.

What areas of your life are you NOT daring to do the right thing?

What decisions have you made that in hindsight you would change? Do you have the confidence to dare to do the right thing even if there are consequences? Have you sought help in order to gain the courage to start to do the right thing? At Irwin Edgehill Training we believe that if you do look for the right support and guidance it will undoubtedly transform your life and the lives of those around you for the better.

Need some help to get started and dare to do the right thing?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training to see how we can help you build the confidence and assertiveness needed to enable you to always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.