Emotional Wellbeing – Irwin Edgehill Training

Roses are red, violets are blue, so how did I end up with someone like you?

by Irwin EdgehillFebruary 13, 2024

It’s that time of the year when we are meant to be our best selves to the person we are supposed to love. A time when TV and radio adverts, the supermarkets and social media are all encouraging us to spend big on treating our loved ones to something special for Valentine’s Day.

Before you read any further, let me say this blog is not written with any form of resentfulness or bitterness. On the contrary, it is written in spiritual awareness, where I passionately believe if people had this type of awareness, they wouldn’t get seduced, as they do at this point every year, into spending money for the wrong reasons.

I say for the wrong reasons because the other person in most cases, only ever mechanically gives, to get back, or as I have mentioned they take their cues from a media point of view and not from their authentic self.

My question to you is this: How is it possible for a couple to be authentically their best selves when they do no emotional inner work to become their best authentic selves? And if they are not doing any emotional inner work, do you think they have the capacity to be an authentic valentine 365 days a year let alone for just one day?

This is why couples spend most of their time at each other’s throats be that verbally, psychologically, or unfortunately physically. Which in many cases has its root cause in both, or at least one of them not doing any emotional inner work on themselves. Yet they will still be buying each other valentine gifts and calling that love.

If you are fed up with silently or openly saying to yourself: How did I end up with him or her? You are now aware of the fundamental reason and can now start to do something about it.

With the help of Irwin Edgehill training, let us help you to become a true valentine every day of the year. Call 07842 435921 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. And whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

10 Top Tips on how to stay emotionally intelligent over the Christmas period

by Irwin EdgehillDecember 11, 202310 Comments

Do not try to be happy! This false state of being will just make you feel worse rather than better. Instead try sitting with how you are feeling, don’t do anything to suppress it and you will find the feeling won’t last for long.
Have the courage to say no to those invites where you usually say yes, but make you feel and wish that you hadn’t. By adopting this positively empowering approach you will be in control and feel infinitely better.
See this time of year for the authentic reason it was intended: To reflect on a year that is coming to an end and to use this period to see the positive things you have achieved.
Stay awake. We firmly believe the reason most people suffer throughout the year and more so over the Christmas period is their inability to be aware of their thoughts and feelings in any given moment. As a result they are at the mercy of all manner of thoughts, the majority of these being negative, which then produce negative actions and results. To prevent this from happening be in control of yourself by being consciously aware of how you are feeling. This will prevent you from over indulging with food, drink or even shopping and experiencing the related negative feelings and emotions.
Get some fresh air and exercise even if this just means a brisk walk around the block or park. Cold short days and long dark nights makes us all just want to hide away indoors. However being outdoors will work wonders for you both emotionally and physically.
If Christmas isn’t a particularly good time of the year for one reason or another then reach out to friends or family. Failing that send Irwin Edgehill Training an email or text and we will gladly lend an ear. Email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or text 07842 435921.
Use this time of the year to have a clear-out of all the unwanted stuff that you’ve had for months if not years. By doing so you are creating a space for all the good things you want to come into your life.
Be mindful of the fact that at this time of the year we spend more time with friends and family than we usually do and in a lot of cases the unresolved issues that are normally suppressed can start to seep out. Be mindful of this and you’ll be able to keep control of your thoughts and yourself.
Use the Christmas holiday period to relax, unwind and recharge.
Just because it’s Christmas doesn’t mean we stop working on ourselves. I remember watching an interview with the decathlon gold medallist Daley Thompson in which he explained that even on Christmas day he was working on himself as he knew his counterparts were most probably having a day off. So if you want to be ahead of the game in 2024 don’t let Christmas get in the way.

On behalf of us at Irwin Edgehill Training we wish you a happy Christmas and a prosperous 2024. And whilst you are using this time to relax and unwind, why not read some more of our blogs at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Stop taking everything as a personal blow!

by Irwin EdgehillNovember 6, 20236 Comments

This was one of the first sentences I heard when I stepped onto the Mystic Path to Cosmic Power.

Before then, every problem that I encountered was always taken as a personal blow. Little did I know that taking it personally only served to perpetuate the problem.

I truly believe most people, including you the reader, are taking your problems as a personal blow. As a result, you are suffering needlessly as I used to do.

As an example, I used to take it as personal blow if:

I didn’t get the job I went for.
My advances didn’t win the heart of a woman I fancied.
I was stuck in crawling traffic.
I was in a long queue at the bank.
I got caught in the rain.
I missed the wrong turning or exit on a car journey.
My relationships never worked out as I had hoped.
I couldn’t work something out or figure how to complete a particular task.

Can you think of anything from the past or currently, that you are taking as a personal blow?How do you feel emotionally or physically as a result?

Non-identification concept

One phenomenal technique I use is called the non-identification concept. By not identifying with that blow and not seeing it as a part of me, helps my recovery time increase a thousand-fold. As a result, I feel better more often.

Are you fed up with taking all your blows personally?

Then give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

by Irwin EdgehillJune 5, 20231 Comment

As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I delivered on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you really want from life?” Their responses included:

I want to be happy.
I want good mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
I want to be financially independent.
I want peace of mind.
I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, and family.
I want a good job.
I want a nice house with a garden.
I want to go on nice holidays regularly.
I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol.
I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something or someone.
I want to have the courage to say I am NOT alright instead of pretending that I am.

I continued: “Have you got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.

This was not a surprise to me. Most people really do want to ‘live on easy street’, having good emotional and physical health, wealth, peace, happiness, and good relationships. Unfortunately, in so many cases the vast majority will never achieve it. Not because they can’t, but more crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan.

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street?

Do you have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?

Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition?

Are you seeking the right authentic help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact me, Irwin Edgehill and I will help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. You can also read my previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

There is something other than Darkness!

by Irwin EdgehillMay 9, 20232 Comments

Are you feeling your emotional darkness will never end? Do you believe that this state is where you’ll always be? Unfortunately, many people go through life in emotional, mental, psychological, and spiritual darkness believing that this state is where they will always be. Never for one second believing that there is something other than darkness.

Look around to see the darkness

Don’t take my word for it. The next time you are out, observe the people around you, particularly when they aren’t aware that you are watching. You’ll see their faces of gloom and darkness.

As I sit here writing this blog it’s occurred to me that much of my life has been spent in darkness. The darkness was perpetuated because of my mistaken belief that this was all there was for me. I found myself:

Being secretly envious of others who had what I thought I couldn’t have
Pretending I was happy when I wasn’t
Thinking I was emotionally strong when I was weak
Yearning for authentic love without knowing how to attract it
Despising the hypocrisy of the world but at the same time wanting to be a part of it
Staying in relationships because I didn’t have the courage to stand alone

But there is something other than darkness

My question for you to ponder is this: What is your dominant mood when no one is around or watching you? If it’s darkness, don’t you think that it’s time to question if there is something else. How much more of it can you take before it gets too much? Because there is something other than darkness, it’s called self-development.

Move away from the darkness and into the light

It is only when we develop ourselves inwardly that we move away from darkness and into the light. As mentioned in a previous blog, this to a small minority of emotionally sophisticated souls is very elementary, but for the vast majority that aren’t, it sadly isn’t.

If you really want something other than your current darkness then prove it to yourself and get some authentic help and guidance by contacting Irwin Edgehill Training on 07842 435 921 or info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. You can also read our previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Are you putting FEELINGS before FACT?

by Irwin EdgehillApril 11, 2023April 11, 2023

Do you ever put feelings before fact and because of this your actions turn painfully against you? If your answer is yes, then keep reading.

Long before I started on my own path of spiritual freedom. When my life’s circumstances only ever yielded one disaster after another, I was constantly putting my feelings before fact. Causing me to pay a heavy price as I was:

Using feelings to gauge that the woman I was with was real, when in FACT they weren’t.
Feeling that the boss had it in for me when in FACT they didn’t.
Feeling like there was no hope of me ever transforming my confusion about life into clarity when in FACT there was.

This was all due to being controlled by my feelings and not by fact. Which, on reflection isn’t an emotionally sophisticated way to live.

If you are currently in this painful predicament, I implore you to spend time pondering this blog. Because once you gain clarity it will save you a whole lot of wasted emotional, mental, psychological as well as physical energy.

An example of this came up in a recent 1-2-1-coaching session. The participant who always seemed to find themself bouncing from one doomed relationship to another, had the courage to seek advice and ask the question: “WHY does this keep happening to me, Irwin?”

My response, based on my practical as well as theoretical experiences was ….: “It is SIMPLY because we live in a world that gets us to put feelings before FACTS.”

I’m not talking about feelings based on the everyday level. Such as feeling it might rain so I best take my brolly as I don’t want to get wet. I am talking on a higher level. Were our actions based on feelings and not FACTS will affect our emotional, mental, psychological, physical, and financial wellbeing.

Who are you being driven by?

So, the key question we need to ask of ourselves in any emotional situation is who am I being driven by? My FEELINGS or FACTS. And if my feelings seem to be overwhelming me, can I ‘remember to remember,’ to realise the damage it will cause me if I don’t try to see the FACTS of it.

This may well seem very elementary to the very few who have taken the time and energy to work on their inner selves. Who are now being guided by something higher than their five senses. But alas to the vast majority who aren’t, it isn’t.

Are you one of the majorities who puts your feelings before FACTS? Are you fed up with the resulting pain it causes? Then do your entire body a loving favour, and get in touch with Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and we’ll help you put fact before feelings. And whilst you are here, why not read some more of our blog posts on https://irwinedgehilltraining.com

Want freedom from the tyranny of your sentimental memories?

by Irwin EdgehillMarch 13, 2023March 13, 2023

For some strange but practical reason, before I started on my own path of emotional freedom. I often found myself getting sentimental for those bygone days. When things appeared to be better than they really were.

Fast forward to today, I often ask myself in moments of reflection: How many people actually live their lives in the NOW? Not getting caught up in the tyrannical trap of their sentimental memories, like I mistakenly did.

I use the word tyranny because that is what it felt like for me. To be continually subjected to those thoughts. And this reflection motivated me to write this blog. To ask the question to you! Would you like to be free from the tyranny of your sentimental memories?

There is nothing gained from sentimental memories to your emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, and as a result physical wellbeing. Negative thoughts connect with every part of us to our detriment, as do our positive thoughts but to our betterment.

Painful thoughts are perpetuated by oneself

Little did I realise until a very wise man taught me, my painful thoughts were being perpetuated by myself. I was keeping them real and present because I wasn’t doing anything to help my current situation. The past at the time seemed like the logical place to dwell because I didn’t recognise I needed to have the courage, persistence, and guidance to make my life better and brighter.

Don’t stop looking back on achievements and milestones

There is nothing wrong in looking back on our achievements and milestones. To motivate ourselves with our future goals or aspirations, or to even inspire those around us as I am trying to do with this blog. However, we need to be aware there will be definite emotional defeat if we look back sentimentally, with unconscious mechanicalness.

I posed this question in one of my recent Assertiveness Workshop’s. At first the group were unconvinced by the possibility that they had the power to transform their sentimental feelings, which was quickly destroying them. However, as the session ended most of them gained clarity. Feeling they had it within them to free themselves from the tyranny of their sentimental memories. But only if they were willing to put in the hard work and effort needed.

If you want to free yourself from the tyranny of sentimental memories, then have the courage of your convictions and contact us by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and we’ll help you make it a reality. And whilst you are here, why not read some more of our blog posts on https://irwinedgehilltraining.com

Painful feelings cannot enter a conscious mind.

by Irwin EdgehillFebruary 20, 2023February 20, 20237 Comments

Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the feelings that go through your mind in any given moment? Are these feelings painful and in many cases very painful? Then please read on…..

Whether you believe it or not, it’s a fact that many people to one degree or another suffer needlessly from misleading hostile voices within their minds. All of us are a target and are affected! Depending on how consciously aware we are of our thoughts throughout the day, will impact on how well we can do something holistic to combat them.

I recently delivered a Self-Esteem workshop when one of the participants asked:

“Irwin, is it possible to go through a week let alone a day, without having painful feelings and suffering majorly as a result, about something that happened in the past or is happening now?”

Authentic piece of mind
My response to her sophisticated question. And I say sophisticated because it is our actions to questions such as these that will begin to bring authentic peace of mind from painful feelings. But only if we are willing to take the steps and make the sacrifices required to live emotionally, psychologically, and mentally pain free of such feelings.

Are you willing to sacrifice 30 minutes each and every day to enter a conscious mind?
Before you start any task including work or looking after the children you need to spend time to gather your thoughts. Being mindful of negative thoughts from the past or present, you need to put yourself in a state of gratitude for the things you have now instead of being focused on the things you don’t have.
Are you willing to stop giving added energy to negative thoughts?
Realising that focusing on them, as you do now, will do nothing but perpetuate those painful feelings.
Are you willing to persist with this new way of living and being?
It may seem like an incredibly daunting task for the first few weeks or even months, but it is virtually impossible to achieve anything of any real value without being fully committed.
Are you willing to ignore any negative put downs from others?
There will be those who will be secretly or openly against you trying to free your mind. To escape from the tyranny of those painful feelings, you may have to decide to leave those types of people behind!

If you can say YES to all the above, then congratulations you have a real chance of a positive breakthrough. The next step is to get in touch.

Let us help you become one of the few who’s painful feelings no longer cause a major problem for them each and every day because they are consciously awake to prevent it.

Contact Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and let us help you begin your journey of authentic emotional, mental and psychological salvation.

Roses are red, violets are blue, so how did I end up with someone like you?

by Irwin EdgehillFebruary 13, 2023February 13, 20232 Comments

It’s that time of the year when we are meant to be our best selves to the person we are supposed to love. A time when TV and radio adverts, the supermarkets and social media are all encouraging us to spend big on treating our loved ones to something special for Valentine’s Day.

Before you read any further, let me say this blog is not written with any form of resentfulness or bitterness. On the contrary, it is written in spiritual awareness, where I passionately believe if people had this type of awareness, they wouldn’t get seduced, as they do at this point every year, into spending money for the wrong reasons.

I say for the wrong reasons because the other person in most cases, only ever mechanically gives, to get back, or as I have mentioned they take their cues from a media point of view and not from their authentic self.

My question to you is this: How is it possible for a couple to be authentically their best selves when they do no emotional inner work to become their best authentic selves? And if they are not doing any emotional inner work, do you think they have the capacity to be an authentic valentine 365 days a year let alone for just one day?

This is why couples spend most of their time at each other’s throats be that verbally, psychologically, or unfortunately physically. Which in many cases has its root cause in both, or at least one of them not doing any emotional inner work on themselves. Yet they will still be buying each other valentine gifts and calling that love.

If you are fed up with silently or openly saying to yourself: How did I end up with him or her? You are now aware of the fundamental reason and can now start to do something about it.

With the help of Irwin Edgehill training, let us help you to become a true valentine every day of the year. Call 07842 435921 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Are you really my valentine?

by Irwin EdgehillFebruary 9, 2022February 13, 2023

It’s that time of the year when we are meant to be our best selves to the person we are supposed to love. A time when TV and radio adverts, the supermarkets and social media are all encouraging us to spend big on treating our loved ones to something special for Valentine’s Day.

Before you read any further, let me say this blog is not written with any form of resentfulness or bitterness. On the contrary, it is written in spiritual awareness, where I passionately believe if people had this type of awareness, they wouldn’t get seduced, as they do at this point every year, into spending money for the wrong reasons.

I say for the wrong reasons because the other person in most cases, only ever mechanically gives, to get back, or as I have mentioned they take their cues from a media point of view and not from their authentic self.

My question to you is this: How is it possible for a couple to be authentically their best selves when they do no emotional inner work to become their best authentic selves? And if they are not doing any emotional inner work, do you think they have the capacity to be an authentic valentine 365 days a year let alone for just one day?

This is why couples spend most of their time at each other’s throats be that verbally, psychologically, or unfortunately physically. Which in many cases has its root cause in both, or at least one of them not doing any emotional inner work on themselves. Yet they will still be buying each other valentine gifts and calling that love.

If you are fed up with silently or openly saying to yourself: How did I end up with him or her? You are now aware of the fundamental reason and can now start to do something about it.

With the help of Irwin Edgehill training, let us help you to become a true valentine every day of the year. Call 07842 435921 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk