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Category: Life Coaching

Stop taking everything as a personal blow!

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This was one of the first sentences I heard when I stepped onto the Mystic Path to Cosmic Power.

Before then, every problem that I encountered was always taken as a personal blow. Little did I know that taking it personally only served to perpetuate the problem.

I truly believe most people, including you the reader, are taking your problems as a personal blow. As a result, you are suffering needlessly as I used to do. 

As an example, I used to take it as personal blow if:

  • I didn’t get the job I went for.
  • My advances didn’t win the heart of a woman I fancied.
  • I was stuck in crawling traffic.
  • I was in a long queue at the bank.
  • I got caught in the rain.
  • I missed the wrong turning or exit on a car journey. 
  • My relationships never worked out as I had hoped.
  • I couldn’t work something out or figure how to complete a particular task.

Can you think of anything from the past or currently, that you are taking as a personal blow?How do you feel emotionally or physically as a result? 

Non-identification concept

One phenomenal technique I use is called the non-identification concept. By not identifying with that blow and not seeing it as a part of me, helps my recovery time increase a thousand-fold. As a result, I feel better more often.

Are you fed up with taking all your blows personally? 

Then give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you able to see your own contradictions?

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Most people, to one degree or another, can only see the contradictions in others but not in themselves. Do you know of someone who behaves like this? Or on reflection, might this be how you are or have been too?

My experience of not seeing through my own contradictions first came as a shock. This was because I wasn’t doing any inner work to recognise it. Getting all my cues on how to live internally from the exterior world. And as a result I thought I didn’t need to.

We live in two worlds!
It was only when I realised that we live in two worlds, the EXTERIOR and the INNER. Then I was able to get down to some seriously hard but authentically fulfilling work of self-observation and self-reflection. Only then did I notice my own contradictions and went beyond it.

In a recent coaching session, I helped an individual see through his own contradictions. Causing him many problems without him knowing it. It occurred to me that there must be many people with this issue. And the realisation of the problems it most certainly will be causing them.  

Don’t take my word for it. 
Have the courage to try this remarkable concept of watching your own contradictions. This will increase your level of awareness and transform you into a better person as it did for me and my client. 

But have you got the courage to do it? 
Unfortunately, most people haven’t. Not because they don’t want to. They just don’t believe they can do it or more concerning, they feel they don’t need to.

If you have the courage, that’s great news for you. You are now about to embark on the hard but cheery journey to inner emotional freedom. And as a result, see your external circumstances transform for the better.

What are you waiting for? 
Give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435 921 or contact me via email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. I’ll happily supply you with the tools and techniques that will make your painful contradictions a thing of the past. 

And whilst you are here why not have a read of my previous blogs.

Are you tiptoeing through life to safely make it to your death?

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Are you one of the many who fear life? Then the following is worth pondering:

  • Do you start your day only to find yourself thinking that you can’t wait for the day to end?
  • When you are at work or doing chores, do you find yourself watching the clock because you are desperate to be somewhere else?
  • Are you looking forward to retirement because you’d rather be somewhere else, than at work?
  • Towards the end of summer, do you find yourself dreading winter and as a result can’t wait for summer to come around again?

All the above were constant thoughts and behaviours in my own life. Then someone asked me this question, if I was tiptoeing through my life to safely make it to my death. My answer after I had pondered it was a resounding, YES. 

It was a shocking realisation, that most of my life was spent wishing my days and life away without realising it! By trying to avoid my miserable situation and the resulting emotional pain it was causing me. 

I was in this predicament because I did not know or was not made aware of what life is fundamentally all about. If pressed for an answer I would have said: “It’s about acquiring things and people.”  Since I was not doing any of those things it was no wonder, I felt the way I did.

Concentrating my energy and efforts on living in the present

It was only when an incredibly sophisticated man told me that, in the main, life is all about emotional evolution. To become a more balanced, whole person, and the more you work on the inner side of yourself the more you won’t be wishing for the future anymore. Because you would be concentrating all your energies and efforts on the now and living in the present.

It took me a while to fully understand this truth. Because of the way society tries to, and often succeeds, in manipulating the many to be always looking forward to the next thrill. Be that a holiday, a new car, relationships, house, a qualification, or more money. 

There’s nothing wrong in wanting things!

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting or having those things mentioned above. However, there is something fundamentally wrong in getting carried away with them. To a point where you have lost sight of the present and as a result find yourself wishing your days away in pursuit of those things.

So, the next time you find yourself looking forward to the future, ask yourself is it because you don’t like the present? If so, contact me, Irwin Edgehill on 07842 435 921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and I will help you stay in the present to live a longer more fulfilling life.  And whilst you are here, why not have a read of my previous blogs www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

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As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I delivered on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you really want from life?”  Their responses included:

  • I want to be happy.
  • I want good mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
  • I want to be financially independent.
  • I want peace of mind.
  • I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, and family.
  • I want a good job.
  • I want a nice house with a garden.
  • I want to go on nice holidays regularly.
  • I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol.
  • I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something or someone.
  • I want to have the courage to say I am NOT alright instead of pretending that I am. 

I continued: “Have you got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.  

This was not a surprise to me.  Most people really do want to ‘live on easy street’, having good emotional and physical health, wealth, peace, happiness, and good relationships.  Unfortunately, in so many cases the vast majority will never achieve it. Not because they can’t, but more crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan. 

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street? 

  • Do you have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?  
  • Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition? 
  • Are you seeking the right authentic help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact me, Irwin Edgehill and I will help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. You can also read my previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Overwhelmed by your feelings

Painful feelings cannot enter a conscious mind. 

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the feelings that go through your mind in any given moment? Are these feelings painful and in many cases very painful? Then please read on….. 

Whether you believe it or not, it’s a fact that many people to one degree or another suffer needlessly from misleading hostile voices within their minds. All of us are a target and are affected! Depending on how consciously aware we are of our thoughts throughout the day, will impact on how well we can do something holistic to combat them.

I recently delivered a Self-Esteem workshop when one of the participants asked:

“Irwin, is it possible to go through a week let alone a day, without having painful feelings and suffering majorly as a result, about something that happened in the past or is happening now?”

Authentic piece of mind
My response to her sophisticated question. And I say sophisticated because it is our actions to questions such as these that will begin to bring authentic peace of mind from painful feelings. But only if we are willing to take the steps and make the sacrifices required to live emotionally, psychologically, and mentally pain free of such feelings.

  • Are you willing to sacrifice 30 minutes each and every day to enter a conscious mind? 
    Before you start any task including work or looking after the children you need to spend time to gather your thoughts. Being mindful of negative thoughts from the past or present, you need to put yourself in a state of gratitude for the things you have now instead of being focused on the things you don’t have.
  • Are you willing to stop giving added energy to negative thoughts?
    Realising that focusing on them, as you do now, will do nothing but perpetuate those painful feelings.
  • Are you willing to persist with this new way of living and being? 
    It may seem like an incredibly daunting task for the first few weeks or even months, but it is virtually impossible to achieve anything of any real value without being fully committed.
  • Are you willing to ignore any negative put downs from others?
    There will be those who will be secretly or openly against you trying to free your mind. To escape from the tyranny of those painful feelings, you may have to decide to leave those types of people behind!

If you can say YES to all the above, then congratulations you have a real chance of a positive breakthrough. The next step is to get in touch.

Let us help you become one of the few who’s painful feelings no longer cause a major problem for them each and every day because they are consciously awake to prevent it.  

Contact Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and let us help you begin your journey of authentic emotional, mental and psychological salvation.

Mental, emotional and physical wellbeing

Is sending everyone to the Psychiatrist the right approach? 

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Do you believe other people are entirely responsible for all your continued issues? Are you going to have to book them all in to see a psychiatrist for you to get better?

Unfortunately, many people do believe this to be the case. But ask yourself honestly, do you feel any better emotionally or spiritually thinking this? What are your relationships like, as a result, are they harmonious ones?

I’m guessing if you are truly honest with yourself then the answer is more than likely going to be a resounding NO. This is brilliant news for you and your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. It’s also just as important for your nearest and dearest. They too will feel infinitely better knowing that you are finally getting on the road to recovery by positively changing the way you are thinking about your issues.

Why brilliant news?
I say brilliant news because of the fact you can now put yourself in the position of working through the pounding persistence of these issues, some of them being deep seated views. 

Get the right help!
By getting the help of an organically competent therapist. They will help to positively guide you out of the emotional swamp that these constant, painful, thoughts and feelings have put you in. And eventually they will help you make those issues either vanish or become a lot lighter than they are now. 

Without doubt, we have all been wronged or negatively misguided in the past or present, some of us more harshly than others. My point is we have already emotionally paid for this, we don’t have to keep continually paying for it day after day, month after month, and year after year. What we need to do is first try to recognise the fact that there is no positive value in thinking that everyone else is responsible for how we continue to feel, and as a result act.

Get in touch
So why not free yourself from the pounding persistence of your issues and contact Irwin Edgehill Training for a far cheaper and more effective option than sending everyone to the psychiatrist in order to make you feel better. Call 07842 435291 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk Let us help you make this a thing of the past.

relationship coaching

Let me pile all my issues on you and let’s call it love.

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This title was taken from a relationship coaching session that I provided recently to a local couple.

One of the main issues they were facing was that one of them thought that now they were together it gave them carte blanche to pile all their issues on to the other person and call it love. Seriously damaging their chances of having an authentic, un-conditional loving relationship. 

This made me think and reflect on my past relationships, with the shocking realisation that I too had experienced the same thing. But it did enable me to offer an authentic real-life solution to their miserable situation.

The fundamental reason why, in my opinion, so many couples experience similar painful and unnecessary problems is because they do not work on their issues, just as I never used to do. As a result, they go into a relationship wearing a false mask of sanity and emotional control, when in reality they are anything but. 

The reason I used to wear my false mask was because I thought the other person wouldn’t like me if I told them my truth. Not realising starting a relationship with a lie will always end badly because a relationship founded on any negativity will never be able to withstand life’s natural storms.  

My solution to them which I am now offering to you:

Don’t be accepting of this type of relationship. If you are currently in a relationship like this, it exists because firstly and fore-mostly you are accepting of it. If you didn’t accept it, you wouldn’t be involved in it. You would recognise that it will only get worse and in turn will make you feel depressed and resentful. 

Work on yourself harder than anything else. Not adhering to one of the golden rules as previously posted about is a huge mistake.  Whatever emotional or mental issues you may have, it’s wise to get some help and guidance to work on them before you enter into another relationship. Or if you find yourself going into a relationship whilst you are working on your issues. Have the courage to let the other person know you are as this will save a lot of resentment and mistrust going forward. 

This may all sound like basic advice but alas it’s this type of advice that many people are not aware of, or they never act upon it.

Get in touch

If you are currently in a relationship where the other person is piling all their issues on to you and calling it love, give Irwin Edgehill Training a call on 07842 435291 or send us a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk Let us help you make this a thing of the past.

No will, no win

Where there is NO WILL, there will be NO WIN!

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WILL you do the things today that WILL get you where you want to be tomorrow, next month, next year and the years’ after that? Have you got the right help in place to ensure you get there?

Unfortunately, if you haven’t got the WILL you will never WIN. You will never achieve anything of any real value such as good health, peace of mind or strong relationships whether they be business, platonic or romantic.

Sadly, many people use WILL the wrong way which is the main reason they don’t and won’t WIN any of the above. This makes them feel depressed, stressed, anxious and lacking in confidence. I say ‘sadly’ because in my own experience of working on myself and in turn helping others to do the same, it doesn’t have to be this way. If you use WILL in the way it is intended, you WILL positively win.

If you are currently saying to yourself any of the following, then STOP!

  • I WILL never get that job
  • I WILL never get the grades I want
  • I WILL never meet the right person
  • I WILL never be happy
  • I WILL never have peace of mind
  • I WILL never rid myself of my depression, stress, anxiety, lack of assertiveness and confidence
  • I WILL never kick my street drugs or alcohol habit
  • I WILL never be able to say NO when people ask things of me instead of always saying YES which in turn makes me feel bad, sad and angry at myself

So, all you need is WILL! The question is how can you get it? Who can you call on to get the help and support you need at any time day or night?

Well look no further than Irwin Edgehill Training. Let us help you WILL yourself to peace and authentic happiness in all areas of your life. Contact us via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk  or call 07842 435921 to begin the journey.

live the life you imagined

Why not create a space for the good that you desire?

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Have you ever wondered why the things you really want from life are so elusive? Have you tried different tools and techniques in order to get the things you want but are still no further forward?  Have you tried nothing at all, thinking that what you have now is all you are going to get? 

If you have said YES to any of the above then now is the time for you to start creating a space for the ‘good that you desire’. 

I used this simple but extremely powerful concept with a couple that I was recently life coaching. One of their biggest challenges was that their lives were crammed with negative emotions left over  from past experiences and memories that they hadn’t worked through as individuals before they got together. These emotions were now having a huge impact on their mental, emotional and physical well-being. They were also placing a huge strain on their marriage, relationships with the children and their positions at work.

So the first question I asked of them was: ‘What are you both willing to sacrifice in order to live the life you have imagined?’ The reality being that you can’t get the things you desire without discarding an equivalent amount of negative emotions.

Fortunately for them they were both willing to commit to stop visiting ‘the scrap yards’ of their previous lives.  By doing so they created the space for us at Irwin Edgehill Training to provide them with the right support and guidance they needed to begin to focus on their future.

Working on their emotions harder than they worked on anything else gave them the opportunity to begin to live their relationship to its fullest brightest self. All because they were willing to create a space for the good that they desired.

How about you? Are you willing to create a space for the good that you desire in your business, platonic or romantic relations? 

If you are then make your desire a reality by contacting us at Irwin Edgehill Training for the right help and guidance. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

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As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I ran on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you want from life?” Their responses included:

  • I want to be happy
  • I want good mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health
  • I want to be financially independent
  • I want peace of mind
  • I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend and friends
  • I want a good job
  • I want a nice house with a garden
  • I want to go on nice holidays regularly
  • I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol
  • I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something

I continued: “How many of you have got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.  

This was not a surprise to me.  Most people want to ‘live on easy street’; having health, wealth, peace, happiness and good relationships.  Unfortunately, in so many cases they will never get there. Not because they can’t, but crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan. 

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street? 

Do you  have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?  Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition? Are you seeking the right help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and let us help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.