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Roses are red, violets are blue, so how did I end up with someone like you?

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It’s that time of the year when we are meant to be our best selves to the person we are supposed to love. A time when TV and radio adverts, the supermarkets and social media are all encouraging us to spend big on treating our loved ones to something special for Valentine’s Day.

Before you read any further, let me say this blog is not written with any form of resentfulness or bitterness. On the contrary, it is written in spiritual awareness, where I passionately believe if people had this type of awareness, they wouldn’t get seduced, as they do at this point every year, into spending money for the wrong reasons.

I say for the wrong reasons because the other person in most cases, only ever mechanically gives, to get back, or as I have mentioned they take their cues from a media point of view and not from their authentic self.

My question to you is this: How is it possible for a couple to be authentically their best selves when they do no emotional inner work to become their best authentic selves? And if they are not doing any emotional inner work, do you think they have the capacity to be an authentic valentine 365 days a year let alone for just one day?

This is why couples spend most of their time at each other’s throats be that verbally, psychologically, or unfortunately physically. Which in many cases has its root cause in both, or at least one of them not doing any emotional inner work on themselves. Yet they will still be buying each other valentine gifts and calling that love. 

If you are fed up with silently or openly saying to yourself: How did I end up with him or her? You are now aware of the fundamental reason and can now start to do something about it. 

With the help of Irwin Edgehill training, let us help you to become a true valentine every day of the year. Call 07842 435921 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. And whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

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10 Top Tips on how to stay emotionally intelligent over the Christmas period

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  1. Do not try to be happy! This false state of being will just make you feel worse rather than better. Instead try sitting with how you are feeling, don’t do anything to suppress it and you will find the feeling won’t last for long.
  2. Have the courage to say no to those invites where you usually say yes, but make you feel and wish that you hadn’t. By adopting this positively empowering approach you will be in control and feel infinitely better.
  3. See this time of year for the authentic reason it was intended: To reflect on a  year that is coming to an end and to use this period to see the positive things you have achieved.
  4. Stay awake. We firmly believe the reason most people suffer throughout the year and more so over the Christmas period is their inability to be aware of their thoughts and feelings in any given moment. As a result they are at the mercy of all manner of thoughts, the majority of these being negative, which then produce negative actions and results. To prevent this from happening be in control of yourself by being consciously aware of how you are feeling. This will prevent you from over indulging with food, drink or even shopping and experiencing the related negative feelings and emotions. 
  5. Get some fresh air and exercise even if this just means a brisk walk around the block or park.  Cold short days and long dark nights makes us all just want to hide away indoors.  However being outdoors will work wonders for you both emotionally and physically.
  6. If Christmas isn’t a particularly good time of the year for one reason or another then reach out to friends or family. Failing that send Irwin Edgehill Training an email or text and we will gladly lend an ear.  Email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or text 07842 435921.
  7. Use this time of the year to have a clear-out of all the unwanted stuff that you’ve had for months if not years. By doing so you are creating a space for all the good things you want to come into your life. 
  8. Be mindful of the fact that at this time of the year we spend more time with friends and family than we usually do and in a lot of cases the unresolved issues that are normally suppressed can start to seep out. Be mindful of this and you’ll be able to keep control of your thoughts and yourself.
  9. Use the Christmas holiday period to relax, unwind and recharge.
  10. Just because it’s Christmas doesn’t mean we stop working on ourselves. I remember watching an interview with the decathlon gold medallist Daley Thompson in which he explained that even on Christmas day he was working on himself as he knew his counterparts were most probably having a day off. So if you want to be ahead of the game in 2024 don’t let Christmas get in the way.   

On behalf of us at Irwin Edgehill Training we wish you a happy Christmas and a prosperous 2024.  And whilst you are using this time to relax and unwind, why not read some more of our blogs at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Stop taking everything as a personal blow!

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This was one of the first sentences I heard when I stepped onto the Mystic Path to Cosmic Power.

Before then, every problem that I encountered was always taken as a personal blow. Little did I know that taking it personally only served to perpetuate the problem.

I truly believe most people, including you the reader, are taking your problems as a personal blow. As a result, you are suffering needlessly as I used to do. 

As an example, I used to take it as personal blow if:

  • I didn’t get the job I went for.
  • My advances didn’t win the heart of a woman I fancied.
  • I was stuck in crawling traffic.
  • I was in a long queue at the bank.
  • I got caught in the rain.
  • I missed the wrong turning or exit on a car journey. 
  • My relationships never worked out as I had hoped.
  • I couldn’t work something out or figure how to complete a particular task.

Can you think of anything from the past or currently, that you are taking as a personal blow?How do you feel emotionally or physically as a result? 

Non-identification concept

One phenomenal technique I use is called the non-identification concept. By not identifying with that blow and not seeing it as a part of me, helps my recovery time increase a thousand-fold. As a result, I feel better more often.

Are you fed up with taking all your blows personally? 

Then give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you able to see your own contradictions?

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Most people, to one degree or another, can only see the contradictions in others but not in themselves. Do you know of someone who behaves like this? Or on reflection, might this be how you are or have been too?

My experience of not seeing through my own contradictions first came as a shock. This was because I wasn’t doing any inner work to recognise it. Getting all my cues on how to live internally from the exterior world. And as a result I thought I didn’t need to.

We live in two worlds!
It was only when I realised that we live in two worlds, the EXTERIOR and the INNER. Then I was able to get down to some seriously hard but authentically fulfilling work of self-observation and self-reflection. Only then did I notice my own contradictions and went beyond it.

In a recent coaching session, I helped an individual see through his own contradictions. Causing him many problems without him knowing it. It occurred to me that there must be many people with this issue. And the realisation of the problems it most certainly will be causing them.  

Don’t take my word for it. 
Have the courage to try this remarkable concept of watching your own contradictions. This will increase your level of awareness and transform you into a better person as it did for me and my client. 

But have you got the courage to do it? 
Unfortunately, most people haven’t. Not because they don’t want to. They just don’t believe they can do it or more concerning, they feel they don’t need to.

If you have the courage, that’s great news for you. You are now about to embark on the hard but cheery journey to inner emotional freedom. And as a result, see your external circumstances transform for the better.

What are you waiting for? 
Give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435 921 or contact me via email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. I’ll happily supply you with the tools and techniques that will make your painful contradictions a thing of the past. 

And whilst you are here why not have a read of my previous blogs.

Are you ready for your High Noon?

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Have you ever seen the film ‘High Noon’ Starring Gary Cooper and Grace Kelly?

In High Noon the former marshal Will Kane (Gary Cooper) is preparing to leave the small town of Hadleyville, New Mexico, with his new bride, Amy (Grace Kelly), when he learns that local criminal Frank Miller has been set free and is coming to seek revenge on the marshal who turned him in. When he starts recruiting deputies to fight Miller, Kane is discouraged to find that the people of Hadleyville turn cowardly when the time comes for a showdown, and he must face Miller and his cronies alone.

Put yourself in Will Kane’s place. Everyone around him with whom he thought he could depend and rely on deserted him.  His deputies all gave feeble excuses as to why they couldn’t help. Even his own wife threatened to leave him if he didn’t run and hide like the others in the next town for fear of Frank Miller and his gang.  Just try to think of all the emotions that must have been going through his entire body:

  • Fear for his own life
  • Frustration at his deputies and friends lack of belief and trust in him
  • Sadness that his wife was ready to turn her back on him and the lack of belief she had in him

All of this must have set off a mass of confusion and self doubt within himself.  Was he doing the right thing of staying to face Miller as the clock ticks towards noon when the train is due in?

Now put this scenario into the context of your own life:​

  • Are you willing to keep walking forward on your own even when others doubt you?  
  • Are you willing to stand alone for what you believe in even when others don’t appear to believe in you or what you are trying to achieve? 
  • Have you got the mental and emotional strength, burning desire and persistence needed in order to stay true to your own convictions?

When it comes to your ‘High Noon’ you too will most likely have to go it alone at some point on your journey.  If you really want to live the life you imagine then you’ll need to deal with the doubt of those you thought would stand with you.  You may also need to overcome your own self doubt, stress, anxiety, depression and lack of confidence.

Are you prepared for that?  Do you have the right help in place? If not contact me Irwin Edgehill and I will stand with you all the way on your own ‘High Noon’.  Contact me via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. While you are here have a look at my previous blogs which I believe will resonate: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Is Fear forcing you to give up? Then call on your Heart’s Courage to continue!

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This blog post will be disliked by many. Because so many people have a fear of fear.

To one degree or another, almost everyone lives in fear whether consciously or unconsciously. Mostly because they are unable to take care of themselves in their inner and their outside world. 

Understanding fear is the elixir in curing it.

Trembling and shaking physically, emotionally, and psychologically, at the prospect of another challenging day, month, or year from fear of their finances, relationships, work, and health. Many, feel fear is so mysteriously varied to try and understand it. Without realising that understanding is the elixir in curing it.

Don’t surrender to your fear!

Fearing their strength isn’t adequate or that their wisdom won’t be able to meet their predicament. Many people embark on a desperate search, looking for a solution to whatever they fear in the wrong and quite often dark places. At the same time asking the wrong questions, which only ever yields the wrong answers. Forcing them to surrender to whatever they are fearing, which only perpetuates their fears.

As you are reading this, take a moment to stop and ask yourself: “Can you feel any fear running through you?”Regardless of its size, are you tired of suppressing your fear with the wrong medicinal tools, be they recreational or over the counter ones?

Put an end to your fears.

If your answer is yes, then contact me on 07842 435921 or email  info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk I’ll help you put an end to your fears so you can live heart-fully, in your everyday life. 

And whilst you are here, have a read of my previous blogs, which I believe will resonate with you. You will find them at https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you tiptoeing through life to safely make it to your death?

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Are you one of the many who fear life? Then the following is worth pondering:

  • Do you start your day only to find yourself thinking that you can’t wait for the day to end?
  • When you are at work or doing chores, do you find yourself watching the clock because you are desperate to be somewhere else?
  • Are you looking forward to retirement because you’d rather be somewhere else, than at work?
  • Towards the end of summer, do you find yourself dreading winter and as a result can’t wait for summer to come around again?

All the above were constant thoughts and behaviours in my own life. Then someone asked me this question, if I was tiptoeing through my life to safely make it to my death. My answer after I had pondered it was a resounding, YES. 

It was a shocking realisation, that most of my life was spent wishing my days and life away without realising it! By trying to avoid my miserable situation and the resulting emotional pain it was causing me. 

I was in this predicament because I did not know or was not made aware of what life is fundamentally all about. If pressed for an answer I would have said: “It’s about acquiring things and people.”  Since I was not doing any of those things it was no wonder, I felt the way I did.

Concentrating my energy and efforts on living in the present

It was only when an incredibly sophisticated man told me that, in the main, life is all about emotional evolution. To become a more balanced, whole person, and the more you work on the inner side of yourself the more you won’t be wishing for the future anymore. Because you would be concentrating all your energies and efforts on the now and living in the present.

It took me a while to fully understand this truth. Because of the way society tries to, and often succeeds, in manipulating the many to be always looking forward to the next thrill. Be that a holiday, a new car, relationships, house, a qualification, or more money. 

There’s nothing wrong in wanting things!

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting or having those things mentioned above. However, there is something fundamentally wrong in getting carried away with them. To a point where you have lost sight of the present and as a result find yourself wishing your days away in pursuit of those things.

So, the next time you find yourself looking forward to the future, ask yourself is it because you don’t like the present? If so, contact me, Irwin Edgehill on 07842 435 921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and I will help you stay in the present to live a longer more fulfilling life.  And whilst you are here, why not have a read of my previous blogs www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

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As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I delivered on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you really want from life?”  Their responses included:

  • I want to be happy.
  • I want good mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
  • I want to be financially independent.
  • I want peace of mind.
  • I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, and family.
  • I want a good job.
  • I want a nice house with a garden.
  • I want to go on nice holidays regularly.
  • I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol.
  • I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something or someone.
  • I want to have the courage to say I am NOT alright instead of pretending that I am. 

I continued: “Have you got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.  

This was not a surprise to me.  Most people really do want to ‘live on easy street’, having good emotional and physical health, wealth, peace, happiness, and good relationships.  Unfortunately, in so many cases the vast majority will never achieve it. Not because they can’t, but more crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan. 

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street? 

  • Do you have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?  
  • Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition? 
  • Are you seeking the right authentic help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact me, Irwin Edgehill and I will help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. You can also read my previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

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There is something other than Darkness!

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Are you feeling your emotional darkness will never end? Do you believe that this state is where you’ll always be? Unfortunately, many people go through life in emotional, mental, psychological, and spiritual darkness believing that this state is where they will always be. Never for one second believing that there is something other than darkness. 

Look around to see the darkness

Don’t take my word for it. The next time you are out, observe the people around you, particularly when they aren’t aware that you are watching. You’ll see their faces of gloom and darkness.

As I sit here writing this blog it’s occurred to me that much of my life has been spent in darkness. The darkness was perpetuated because of my mistaken belief that this was all there was for me. I found myself: 

  • Being secretly envious of others who had what I thought I couldn’t have
  • Pretending I was happy when I wasn’t
  • Thinking I was emotionally strong when I was weak 
  •  Yearning for authentic love without knowing how to attract it
  • Despising the hypocrisy of the world but at the same time wanting to be a part of it
  • Staying in relationships because I didn’t have the courage to stand alone
Something other than darkness

But there is something other than darkness

My question for you to ponder is this: What is your dominant mood when no one is around or watching you? If it’s darkness, don’t you think that it’s time to question if there is something else. How much more of it can you take before it gets too much? Because there is something other than darkness, it’s called self-development.

Move away from the darkness and into the light

It is only when we develop ourselves inwardly that we move away from darkness and into the light. As mentioned in a previous blog, this to a small minority of emotionally sophisticated souls is very elementary, but for the vast majority that aren’t, it sadly isn’t. 

If you really want something other than your current darkness then prove it to yourself and get some authentic help and guidance by contacting Irwin Edgehill Training on 07842 435 921 or info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. You can also read our previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Feelings before fact

Are you putting FEELINGS before FACT?

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Do you ever put feelings before fact and because of this your actions turn painfully against you? If your answer is yes, then keep reading.

Long before I started on my own path of spiritual freedom. When my life’s circumstances only ever yielded one disaster after another, I was constantly putting my feelings before fact. Causing me to pay a heavy price as I was:

  • Using feelings to gauge that the woman I was with was real, when in FACT they weren’t. 
  • Feeling that the boss had it in for me when in FACT they didn’t. 
  • Feeling like there was no hope of me ever transforming my confusion about life into clarity when in FACT there was.

This was all due to being controlled by my feelings and not by fact. Which, on reflection isn’t an emotionally sophisticated way to live.

If you are currently in this painful predicament, I implore you to spend time pondering this blog. Because once you gain clarity it will save you a whole lot of wasted emotional, mental, psychological as well as physical energy.

An example of this came up in a recent 1-2-1-coaching session. The participant who always seemed to find themself bouncing from one doomed relationship to another, had the courage to seek advice and ask the question: “WHY does this keep happening to me, Irwin?”

My response, based on my practical as well as theoretical experiences was ….: “It is SIMPLY because we live in a world that gets us to put feelings before FACTS.”

I’m not talking about feelings based on the everyday level. Such as feeling it might rain so I best take my brolly as I don’t want to get wet. I am talking on a higher level. Were our actions based on feelings and not FACTS will affect our emotional, mental, psychological, physical, and financial wellbeing.

Who are you being driven by?

So, the key question we need to ask of ourselves in any emotional situation is who am I being driven by? My FEELINGS or FACTS. And if my feelings seem to be overwhelming me, can I ‘remember to remember,’ to realise the damage it will cause me if I don’t try to see the FACTS of it.

This may well seem very elementary to the very few who have taken the time and energy to work on their inner selves. Who are now being guided by something higher than their five senses. But alas to the vast majority who aren’t, it isn’t.

Are you one of the majorities who puts your feelings before FACTS? Are you fed up with the resulting pain it causes? Then do your entire body a loving favour, and get in touch with Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and we’ll help you put fact before feelings.  And whilst you are here, why not read some more of our blog posts on https://irwinedgehilltraining.com