Why not create a space for the good that you desire?

Have you ever wondered why the things you really want from life are so elusive? Have you tried different tools and techniques in order to get the things you want but are still no further forward?  Have you tried nothing at all, thinking that what you have now is all you are going to get? 

If you have said YES to any of the above then now is the time for you to start creating a space for the ‘good that you desire’. 

I used this simple but extremely powerful concept with a couple that I was recently life coaching. One of their biggest challenges was that their lives were crammed with negative emotions left over  from past experiences and memories that they hadn’t worked through as individuals before they got together. These emotions were now having a huge impact on their mental, emotional and physical well-being. They were also placing a huge strain on their marriage, relationships with the children and their positions at work.

So the first question I asked of them was: ‘What are you both willing to sacrifice in order to live the life you have imagined?’ The reality being that you can’t get the things you desire without discarding an equivalent amount of negative emotions.

Fortunately for them they were both willing to commit to stop visiting ‘the scrap yards’ of their previous lives.  By doing so they created the space for us at Irwin Edgehill Training to provide them with the right support and guidance they needed to begin to focus on their future.

Working on their emotions harder than they worked on anything else gave them the opportunity to begin to live their relationship to its fullest brightest self. All because they were willing to create a space for the good that they desired.

How about you? Are you willing to create a space for the good that you desire? 

If you are then make your desire a reality by contacting us at Irwin Edgehill Training for the right help and guidance. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Why you should work on yourself harder than you work on anything else!

When I first began my journey of personal development one of the prompts that my mentor kept on repeating to me was: ‘If you work on yourself harder than you work on anything else, everything else will take care of itself.’

When I started my journey all I wanted was the right knowledge, tools and techniques to enable me to help myself to help others transform their lives for the better. To hear that prompt all the time confused me as I thought how is me working on me going to get me what I want? 

My mentor continued with a series of questions including:

  • Do you want a brighter tomorrow?
  • Do you want control of your own life?
  • Do you want to avoid mistakes?
  • Do you want to live simplistically?
  • Do you want to be youthful?
  • Do you want to be free of pressure?
  • Do you want to know who you are?
  • Do you want to be unafraid?

I answered those questions with a resounding ‘Yes’ and it was at that point my mentor said your chances of life success have now quadrupled. But how? The reply: ‘Because before we can become 

any good at anything, anything of real value; to be able to do it with an honesty of purpose then we have to work on ourselves harder than we work on anything else.’

Unfortunately, in my opinion society has wrongly told us that all we need to do in life is get a nice spouse, house, a good education, pension and go on holiday a few times a year and we’ve ‘made it. Yet I’ve met and helped so many people with these so called worthy things but they are still either depressed, stressed, anxious or lacking in confidence, assertiveness and resilience.

So, here are my questions to you:

  • Are you in control of your moods or are your moods in control of you?
  • Are you in control of your stress or is your stress in control of you?
  • Are you in control of your anxieties or are your anxieties in control of you?
  • Are you in control of your thoughts or are your thoughts in control of you?
  • Are you in control of your depression or is your depression in control of you?
  • Are you in control of your relationships or are your relationships in control of you?

If you are not in control of your emotions it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be in control of anything of real value and importance, such as your emotional wellbeing.  Why not start to work on yourself harder than you work on anything else?

With the help of Irwin Edgehill Training, let us help you quadruple your chances of real-life success.   

Contact us via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I ran on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you want from life?” Their responses included:

  • I want to be happy
  • I want good mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health
  • I want to be financially independent
  • I want peace of mind
  • I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend and friends
  • I want a good job
  • I want a nice house with a garden
  • I want to go on nice holidays regularly
  • I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol
  • I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something

I continued: “How many of you have got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.  

This was not a surprise to me.  Most people want to ‘live on easy street’; having health, wealth, peace, happiness and good relationships.  Unfortunately, in so many cases they will never get there. Not because they can’t, but crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan. 

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street? 

Do you  have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?  Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition? Are you seeking the right help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and let us help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences

Have you ever avoided making a decision, failed to attend an important meeting or not completed an activity because of the possible consequences? Have you ever reflected on your decision and in hindsight regretted it? I’m guessing the answer is probably ‘YES’.

During a recent workshop I was running on Emotional Intelligence someone asked Tony, a successful businessman: “With your busy schedule how come you are here today?” He gestured and replied: “I can’t afford to miss a session like this one. Even if it means I might lose out on a sale or have a backlog of emails to answer and calls to make when I get back to the office.”

It then occurred to me that Tony was ‘daring to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. Which made me wonder how many other people ‘dare to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. For example do people dare do the right thing in their relationships whether they be business, platonic or romantic? Do people dare do the right thing with their health and the health of their loved ones?

This topic resonated with everyone in the workshop so much that we used the rest of the session to stay with it. We all identified and reflected on some of our own life choices and decisions. We challenged ourselves to consider whether we would make the same decisions again if we were daring to do the right thing. You can probably guess that many participants felt they would have acted differently.

What areas of your life are you NOT daring to do the right thing?

What decisions have you made that in hindsight you would change? Do you have the confidence to dare to do the right thing even if there are consequences? Have you sought help in order to gain the courage to start to do the right thing? At Irwin Edgehill Training we believe that if you do look for the right support and guidance it will undoubtedly transform your life and the lives of those around you for the better.

Need some help to get started and dare to do the right thing?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training to see how we can help you build the confidence and assertiveness needed to enable you to always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Stay away from the scrap yard

Take a moment to think of your car or if you like the car you’ve always wanted to own. Remember all the places you have travelled or visualise the trips you would like to make. Think about the fun it has provided and the fond memories created. Brings a smile to the face doesn’t it.

Imagine you are out for a leisurely drive. Feels great but then disaster, someone crashes into you and your car is written off. How would you feel? Gutted I bet.

So how would you respond? Would you get out of bed at 3 in the morning and walk, now you haven’t got a car or get a taxi all the way to the scrap yard where your crumpled car is laying in a heap? Would you peer over the fence just to have a look and either get angry at the thought of what happened to it, or sad and depressed because it’s no longer in your life?

Would you do this over and over again for year after year? I’m pretty confident that the answer would be ‘NO’.

So why do the equivalent when there is a break up in a relationship?

Well that’s what the majority of people do whenever there’s a break up of some sort in their relationships be it business, platonic or romantic. My question to a group of men and women that I passed on this concept to whilst delivering a workshop on ‘Comfort zones and the benefits of stretching out of it’ was: How many of you are still haunted by experiences and memories from the past because you continually visit the ‘Scrap yard’? No surprise every hand in the room went up in agreement.

If you are finding it difficult to overcome a crash from a past relationship of any kind, then remember that unless it’s dealt with in the right way you’ll continue to suffer from it not only mentally and emotionally but physically too. You have to learn that there is absolutely no value in letting this situation continue as well as understand the tactics and strategies that can be put in place to help you overcome this personal challenge.

Interested? Want to find out more about the Scrap yard concept and how to deal with it?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer that focus on enabling individuals deal with and move on from relationships that have broken down . Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

What makes a good Life Coach?

On a day-to-day basis, coaches face many challenges. Life Coaching is an ongoing process, a method of continuous development and a significant learning experience for both coaches and clients. As a process it’s important to not be afraid of taking a wrong turn but then learn from ‘mistakes’.

The key to this is realising that these aren’t ‘mistakes’ or failings in the first place. What many people regard as mistakes are in fact lessons, experiences and opportunities to learn and develop, but because the majority aren’t aware of this they trudge through life depressed, anxious, stressed, resentful and angry.

Florence Scovel Shinn in her book ‘The Game of Life and How to Play It’ has some helpful tips to say about mistakes and learning. So does Napoleon Hill in his phenomenal book ‘Think and Grow Rich‘.

A good Life Coach must demonstrate resourcefulness and help people to see that if they think they have failed in the past, this does not need to resemble or have any bearing on their future as long as they use the learning experience in the right way.

Listening skills, holding the client accountable for any goals set and giving as much advice, knowledge and guidance to the client is a vital role of the Life Coach. To do this the Life Coach must ensure that he or she is studying the right information themselves in order to give out the right information.

In my experience as a coach I believe the biggest challenges that Life Coaches face boils down to how authentic and sincere they are, in other words is it a vocation or just a job? If it’s a vocation then great both coach and client have a real chance of success, because if a Life Coach is constantly working on themselves with the right knowledge it goes without saying that he or she will be a top of the range coach, who in turn will produce top of the range results for their clients.

If it’s just a job and the so called coach doesn’t believe in what they are doing, or just doing it for the money they won’t last very long. And that is the problem here. A lot of people think Life Coaching is an easy way to make a living and feel good about themselves. All you need to do is sit and listen to a person’s woes, offer some fluffy advice and job done.

If you have this type of attitude about Life Coaching my advice would be don’t do it!

Interested in Life Coaching ? Want to find out more?
Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our Life Coaching services . Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

There really is a cure for workplace stress

Confident that you are getting the most from your employees?

Has staff turnover or absenteeism increased? Is staff morale low and with it productivity and creativity? Then it’s quite likely that your business is suffering from the impact of work place stress.

Having worked with a wide range of organisations for many years who have dealt with the negative effects of workplace stress, it’s a fact that those who recognise and address this increasingly common affliction get the most out of their staff.

In a recent labour force survey it was stated that:
Staff take an average of 12 sick days a year, also 60- to 80% of primary care doctor visits are related to stress, yet only 3% of patients receive stress management help (JAMA Intern Med. 2013; 173(1): 76-77).
• The American Psychological report stated that 42 % of Americans report lying awake at night due to stress.


So where do you begin?

• Firstly and most importantly recognise that emotional wellbeing of your staff is key to increasing productivity, creativity, staff retention as well as reducing absenteeism.
• Acknowledge that staff wellbeing doesn’t mean treating staff to a cake or box of chocolates every now and again or letting them come to work on a Friday dressed casually.
• Empower your staff to tell you how they really feel about the working environment, the way they are being managed or their current workload.
• Ensure that your managers are trained to understand and recognise staff wellbeing and stress in the workplace. The days of ‘just get on with it and pull yourself together’ just don’t work in today’s always on, increasingly demanding working environment.
• Realise the value and benefit of investing time and money in your employees emotional wellbeing. See it as an investment in the business as you would a new piece of machinery or marketing campaign.
• Put in place a commitment and structure were all your employees recognise the value and benefit from regular life coaching sessions that cover stress management, assertiveness, mindfulness and self-esteem.

Recognise the situation? Want to begin to introduce the cure?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer to organisation like yours to begin to address work place stress. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Transforming our educational system

Now is the time to add a new lesson to a pupil’s time table. Whether at school, college or university classes on ‘Emotional Intelligence’ that focus on self-awareness, emotional control, self-motivation, empathy and relationship skills can only produce positive outcomes. What better way to transform our educational system and offer students ways to boost their learning, friendships, academic success and employment.

These lessons without doubt would help solve so may challenges facing our children, society and the education system as a whole. It will be like laying a foundation to build a house. If the foundation of a house is built on rock it can more or less withstand most storms that come its way. For our children these storms include those faced in a turbulent home, through difficult relationships with friends or family as well as struggles at school.

The foundations of Emotional Intelligence acts on the same principle. Let’s teach pupils how to:

• Manage their stress and anger
• Be more assertive in the right way
• Call on resilience when needed
• Gain confidence

By doing so pupils will find it infinitely easier to perform well in class, get good grades, build stronger and healthier relationships with their peers as well as have more respect for the teachers. Thus everyone wins. The pupil, the school, the teachers, and society as a whole.

Interested? Want to find out more?
Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer that focus on enhancing individuals Emotional Intelligence . Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.