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10 Top Tips on how to stay emotionally intelligent over the Christmas period

by Irwin EdgehillDecember 11, 202310 Comments

Do not try to be happy! This false state of being will just make you feel worse rather than better. Instead try sitting with how you are feeling, don’t do anything to suppress it and you will find the feeling won’t last for long.
Have the courage to say no to those invites where you usually say yes, but make you feel and wish that you hadn’t. By adopting this positively empowering approach you will be in control and feel infinitely better.
See this time of year for the authentic reason it was intended: To reflect on a year that is coming to an end and to use this period to see the positive things you have achieved.
Stay awake. We firmly believe the reason most people suffer throughout the year and more so over the Christmas period is their inability to be aware of their thoughts and feelings in any given moment. As a result they are at the mercy of all manner of thoughts, the majority of these being negative, which then produce negative actions and results. To prevent this from happening be in control of yourself by being consciously aware of how you are feeling. This will prevent you from over indulging with food, drink or even shopping and experiencing the related negative feelings and emotions.
Get some fresh air and exercise even if this just means a brisk walk around the block or park. Cold short days and long dark nights makes us all just want to hide away indoors. However being outdoors will work wonders for you both emotionally and physically.
If Christmas isn’t a particularly good time of the year for one reason or another then reach out to friends or family. Failing that send Irwin Edgehill Training an email or text and we will gladly lend an ear. Email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or text 07842 435921.
Use this time of the year to have a clear-out of all the unwanted stuff that you’ve had for months if not years. By doing so you are creating a space for all the good things you want to come into your life.
Be mindful of the fact that at this time of the year we spend more time with friends and family than we usually do and in a lot of cases the unresolved issues that are normally suppressed can start to seep out. Be mindful of this and you’ll be able to keep control of your thoughts and yourself.
Use the Christmas holiday period to relax, unwind and recharge.
Just because it’s Christmas doesn’t mean we stop working on ourselves. I remember watching an interview with the decathlon gold medallist Daley Thompson in which he explained that even on Christmas day he was working on himself as he knew his counterparts were most probably having a day off. So if you want to be ahead of the game in 2024 don’t let Christmas get in the way.

On behalf of us at Irwin Edgehill Training we wish you a happy Christmas and a prosperous 2024. And whilst you are using this time to relax and unwind, why not read some more of our blogs at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Stop taking everything as a personal blow!

by Irwin EdgehillNovember 6, 20236 Comments

This was one of the first sentences I heard when I stepped onto the Mystic Path to Cosmic Power.

Before then, every problem that I encountered was always taken as a personal blow. Little did I know that taking it personally only served to perpetuate the problem.

I truly believe most people, including you the reader, are taking your problems as a personal blow. As a result, you are suffering needlessly as I used to do.

As an example, I used to take it as personal blow if:

I didn’t get the job I went for.
My advances didn’t win the heart of a woman I fancied.
I was stuck in crawling traffic.
I was in a long queue at the bank.
I got caught in the rain.
I missed the wrong turning or exit on a car journey.
My relationships never worked out as I had hoped.
I couldn’t work something out or figure how to complete a particular task.

Can you think of anything from the past or currently, that you are taking as a personal blow?How do you feel emotionally or physically as a result?

Non-identification concept

One phenomenal technique I use is called the non-identification concept. By not identifying with that blow and not seeing it as a part of me, helps my recovery time increase a thousand-fold. As a result, I feel better more often.

Are you fed up with taking all your blows personally?

Then give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you able to see your own contradictions?

by Irwin EdgehillOctober 2, 20234 Comments

Most people, to one degree or another, can only see the contradictions in others but not in themselves. Do you know of someone who behaves like this? Or on reflection, might this be how you are or have been too?

My experience of not seeing through my own contradictions first came as a shock. This was because I wasn’t doing any inner work to recognise it. Getting all my cues on how to live internally from the exterior world. And as a result I thought I didn’t need to.

We live in two worlds!
It was only when I realised that we live in two worlds, the EXTERIOR and the INNER. Then I was able to get down to some seriously hard but authentically fulfilling work of self-observation and self-reflection. Only then did I notice my own contradictions and went beyond it.

In a recent coaching session, I helped an individual see through his own contradictions. Causing him many problems without him knowing it. It occurred to me that there must be many people with this issue. And the realisation of the problems it most certainly will be causing them.

Don’t take my word for it.
Have the courage to try this remarkable concept of watching your own contradictions. This will increase your level of awareness and transform you into a better person as it did for me and my client.

But have you got the courage to do it?
Unfortunately, most people haven’t. Not because they don’t want to. They just don’t believe they can do it or more concerning, they feel they don’t need to.

If you have the courage, that’s great news for you. You are now about to embark on the hard but cheery journey to inner emotional freedom. And as a result, see your external circumstances transform for the better.

What are you waiting for?
Give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435 921 or contact me via email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. I’ll happily supply you with the tools and techniques that will make your painful contradictions a thing of the past.

And whilst you are here why not have a read of my previous blogs.

Is Fear forcing you to give up? Then call on your Heart’s Courage to continue!

by Irwin EdgehillAugust 4, 2023August 4, 20233 Comments

This blog post will be disliked by many. Because so many people have a fear of fear.

To one degree or another, almost everyone lives in fear whether consciously or unconsciously. Mostly because they are unable to take care of themselves in their inner and their outside world.

Understanding fear is the elixir in curing it.

Trembling and shaking physically, emotionally, and psychologically, at the prospect of another challenging day, month, or year from fear of their finances, relationships, work, and health. Many, feel fear is so mysteriously varied to try and understand it. Without realising that understanding is the elixir in curing it.

Don’t surrender to your fear!

Fearing their strength isn’t adequate or that their wisdom won’t be able to meet their predicament. Many people embark on a desperate search, looking for a solution to whatever they fear in the wrong and quite often dark places. At the same time asking the wrong questions, which only ever yields the wrong answers. Forcing them to surrender to whatever they are fearing, which only perpetuates their fears.

As you are reading this, take a moment to stop and ask yourself: “Can you feel any fear running through you?”Regardless of its size, are you tired of suppressing your fear with the wrong medicinal tools, be they recreational or over the counter ones?

Put an end to your fears.

If your answer is yes, then contact me on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk I’ll help you put an end to your fears so you can live heart-fully, in your everyday life.

And whilst you are here, have a read of my previous blogs, which I believe will resonate with you. You will find them at https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you tiptoeing through life to safely make it to your death?

by Irwin EdgehillJuly 3, 2023July 3, 2023

Are you one of the many who fear life? Then the following is worth pondering:

Do you start your day only to find yourself thinking that you can’t wait for the day to end?
When you are at work or doing chores, do you find yourself watching the clock because you are desperate to be somewhere else?
Are you looking forward to retirement because you’d rather be somewhere else, than at work?
Towards the end of summer, do you find yourself dreading winter and as a result can’t wait for summer to come around again?

All the above were constant thoughts and behaviours in my own life. Then someone asked me this question, if I was tiptoeing through my life to safely make it to my death. My answer after I had pondered it was a resounding, YES.

It was a shocking realisation, that most of my life was spent wishing my days and life away without realising it! By trying to avoid my miserable situation and the resulting emotional pain it was causing me.

I was in this predicament because I did not know or was not made aware of what life is fundamentally all about. If pressed for an answer I would have said: “It’s about acquiring things and people.” Since I was not doing any of those things it was no wonder, I felt the way I did.

Concentrating my energy and efforts on living in the present

It was only when an incredibly sophisticated man told me that, in the main, life is all about emotional evolution. To become a more balanced, whole person, and the more you work on the inner side of yourself the more you won’t be wishing for the future anymore. Because you would be concentrating all your energies and efforts on the now and living in the present.

It took me a while to fully understand this truth. Because of the way society tries to, and often succeeds, in manipulating the many to be always looking forward to the next thrill. Be that a holiday, a new car, relationships, house, a qualification, or more money.

There’s nothing wrong in wanting things!

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting or having those things mentioned above. However, there is something fundamentally wrong in getting carried away with them. To a point where you have lost sight of the present and as a result find yourself wishing your days away in pursuit of those things.

So, the next time you find yourself looking forward to the future, ask yourself is it because you don’t like the present? If so, contact me, Irwin Edgehill on 07842 435 921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and I will help you stay in the present to live a longer more fulfilling life. And whilst you are here, why not have a read of my previous blogs www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

There is something other than Darkness!

by Irwin EdgehillMay 9, 20232 Comments

Are you feeling your emotional darkness will never end? Do you believe that this state is where you’ll always be? Unfortunately, many people go through life in emotional, mental, psychological, and spiritual darkness believing that this state is where they will always be. Never for one second believing that there is something other than darkness.

Look around to see the darkness

Don’t take my word for it. The next time you are out, observe the people around you, particularly when they aren’t aware that you are watching. You’ll see their faces of gloom and darkness.

As I sit here writing this blog it’s occurred to me that much of my life has been spent in darkness. The darkness was perpetuated because of my mistaken belief that this was all there was for me. I found myself:

Being secretly envious of others who had what I thought I couldn’t have
Pretending I was happy when I wasn’t
Thinking I was emotionally strong when I was weak
Yearning for authentic love without knowing how to attract it
Despising the hypocrisy of the world but at the same time wanting to be a part of it
Staying in relationships because I didn’t have the courage to stand alone

But there is something other than darkness

My question for you to ponder is this: What is your dominant mood when no one is around or watching you? If it’s darkness, don’t you think that it’s time to question if there is something else. How much more of it can you take before it gets too much? Because there is something other than darkness, it’s called self-development.

Move away from the darkness and into the light

It is only when we develop ourselves inwardly that we move away from darkness and into the light. As mentioned in a previous blog, this to a small minority of emotionally sophisticated souls is very elementary, but for the vast majority that aren’t, it sadly isn’t.

If you really want something other than your current darkness then prove it to yourself and get some authentic help and guidance by contacting Irwin Edgehill Training on 07842 435 921 or info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. You can also read our previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Are you putting FEELINGS before FACT?

by Irwin EdgehillApril 11, 2023April 11, 2023

Do you ever put feelings before fact and because of this your actions turn painfully against you? If your answer is yes, then keep reading.

Long before I started on my own path of spiritual freedom. When my life’s circumstances only ever yielded one disaster after another, I was constantly putting my feelings before fact. Causing me to pay a heavy price as I was:

Using feelings to gauge that the woman I was with was real, when in FACT they weren’t.
Feeling that the boss had it in for me when in FACT they didn’t.
Feeling like there was no hope of me ever transforming my confusion about life into clarity when in FACT there was.

This was all due to being controlled by my feelings and not by fact. Which, on reflection isn’t an emotionally sophisticated way to live.

If you are currently in this painful predicament, I implore you to spend time pondering this blog. Because once you gain clarity it will save you a whole lot of wasted emotional, mental, psychological as well as physical energy.

An example of this came up in a recent 1-2-1-coaching session. The participant who always seemed to find themself bouncing from one doomed relationship to another, had the courage to seek advice and ask the question: “WHY does this keep happening to me, Irwin?”

My response, based on my practical as well as theoretical experiences was ….: “It is SIMPLY because we live in a world that gets us to put feelings before FACTS.”

I’m not talking about feelings based on the everyday level. Such as feeling it might rain so I best take my brolly as I don’t want to get wet. I am talking on a higher level. Were our actions based on feelings and not FACTS will affect our emotional, mental, psychological, physical, and financial wellbeing.

Who are you being driven by?

So, the key question we need to ask of ourselves in any emotional situation is who am I being driven by? My FEELINGS or FACTS. And if my feelings seem to be overwhelming me, can I ‘remember to remember,’ to realise the damage it will cause me if I don’t try to see the FACTS of it.

This may well seem very elementary to the very few who have taken the time and energy to work on their inner selves. Who are now being guided by something higher than their five senses. But alas to the vast majority who aren’t, it isn’t.

Are you one of the majorities who puts your feelings before FACTS? Are you fed up with the resulting pain it causes? Then do your entire body a loving favour, and get in touch with Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and we’ll help you put fact before feelings. And whilst you are here, why not read some more of our blog posts on https://irwinedgehilltraining.com

Want freedom from the tyranny of your sentimental memories?

by Irwin EdgehillMarch 13, 2023March 13, 2023

For some strange but practical reason, before I started on my own path of emotional freedom. I often found myself getting sentimental for those bygone days. When things appeared to be better than they really were.

Fast forward to today, I often ask myself in moments of reflection: How many people actually live their lives in the NOW? Not getting caught up in the tyrannical trap of their sentimental memories, like I mistakenly did.

I use the word tyranny because that is what it felt like for me. To be continually subjected to those thoughts. And this reflection motivated me to write this blog. To ask the question to you! Would you like to be free from the tyranny of your sentimental memories?

There is nothing gained from sentimental memories to your emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, and as a result physical wellbeing. Negative thoughts connect with every part of us to our detriment, as do our positive thoughts but to our betterment.

Painful thoughts are perpetuated by oneself

Little did I realise until a very wise man taught me, my painful thoughts were being perpetuated by myself. I was keeping them real and present because I wasn’t doing anything to help my current situation. The past at the time seemed like the logical place to dwell because I didn’t recognise I needed to have the courage, persistence, and guidance to make my life better and brighter.

Don’t stop looking back on achievements and milestones

There is nothing wrong in looking back on our achievements and milestones. To motivate ourselves with our future goals or aspirations, or to even inspire those around us as I am trying to do with this blog. However, we need to be aware there will be definite emotional defeat if we look back sentimentally, with unconscious mechanicalness.

I posed this question in one of my recent Assertiveness Workshop’s. At first the group were unconvinced by the possibility that they had the power to transform their sentimental feelings, which was quickly destroying them. However, as the session ended most of them gained clarity. Feeling they had it within them to free themselves from the tyranny of their sentimental memories. But only if they were willing to put in the hard work and effort needed.

If you want to free yourself from the tyranny of sentimental memories, then have the courage of your convictions and contact us by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and we’ll help you make it a reality. And whilst you are here, why not read some more of our blog posts on https://irwinedgehilltraining.com

Painful feelings cannot enter a conscious mind.

by Irwin EdgehillFebruary 20, 2023February 20, 20237 Comments

Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the feelings that go through your mind in any given moment? Are these feelings painful and in many cases very painful? Then please read on…..

Whether you believe it or not, it’s a fact that many people to one degree or another suffer needlessly from misleading hostile voices within their minds. All of us are a target and are affected! Depending on how consciously aware we are of our thoughts throughout the day, will impact on how well we can do something holistic to combat them.

I recently delivered a Self-Esteem workshop when one of the participants asked:

“Irwin, is it possible to go through a week let alone a day, without having painful feelings and suffering majorly as a result, about something that happened in the past or is happening now?”

Authentic piece of mind
My response to her sophisticated question. And I say sophisticated because it is our actions to questions such as these that will begin to bring authentic peace of mind from painful feelings. But only if we are willing to take the steps and make the sacrifices required to live emotionally, psychologically, and mentally pain free of such feelings.

Are you willing to sacrifice 30 minutes each and every day to enter a conscious mind?
Before you start any task including work or looking after the children you need to spend time to gather your thoughts. Being mindful of negative thoughts from the past or present, you need to put yourself in a state of gratitude for the things you have now instead of being focused on the things you don’t have.
Are you willing to stop giving added energy to negative thoughts?
Realising that focusing on them, as you do now, will do nothing but perpetuate those painful feelings.
Are you willing to persist with this new way of living and being?
It may seem like an incredibly daunting task for the first few weeks or even months, but it is virtually impossible to achieve anything of any real value without being fully committed.
Are you willing to ignore any negative put downs from others?
There will be those who will be secretly or openly against you trying to free your mind. To escape from the tyranny of those painful feelings, you may have to decide to leave those types of people behind!

If you can say YES to all the above, then congratulations you have a real chance of a positive breakthrough. The next step is to get in touch.

Let us help you become one of the few who’s painful feelings no longer cause a major problem for them each and every day because they are consciously awake to prevent it.

Contact Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and let us help you begin your journey of authentic emotional, mental and psychological salvation.

Are you a victim of your own delusions?

by Irwin EdgehillJune 17, 2020

This question came up in a personal development meeting I attended recently. It resonated with me so much that I spent some time pondering on it.

I then came to the realisation that my former years were spent in painful delusion, only later understanding through working on myself with the right help and guidance, that this was causing me problems in all aspects of my own life.

For example, I always I thought that I was better than I actually was. When results didn’t go my way I would become sullen, sad and depressed. Not knowing that I was the reason for my failings. In truth I was a victim of my own delusions.

Are you a victim of your own delusions?

So my question to you is: If life isn’t giving you what you want or need, and as a result you feel emotionally defeated more often than not, then are you a victim of your own delusions?

From my own experience, if you are courageous enough to look at your life from this perspective. Overcome the positive awakening shock of it, then things will start to transform for the better for you as it did and continues to do for me.

Act on the right information to improve yourself

I was always told by my mentor the more we can look at ourselves, warts and all. Act on the right information given in order to improve ourselves internally and as a result transform our external circumstances, then and only then will our lives move from delusion to clarity.

Get in touch

If you think you might well be a victim of your own delusions then why not find the courage to contact Irwin Edgehill Training. Let us help and guide you out of self delusion and into a better way to live your life. Contact us via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.