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Stop taking everything as a personal blow!

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This was one of the first sentences I heard when I stepped onto the Mystic Path to Cosmic Power.

Before then, every problem that I encountered was always taken as a personal blow. Little did I know that taking it personally only served to perpetuate the problem.

I truly believe most people, including you the reader, are taking your problems as a personal blow. As a result, you are suffering needlessly as I used to do. 

As an example, I used to take it as personal blow if:

  • I didn’t get the job I went for.
  • My advances didn’t win the heart of a woman I fancied.
  • I was stuck in crawling traffic.
  • I was in a long queue at the bank.
  • I got caught in the rain.
  • I missed the wrong turning or exit on a car journey. 
  • My relationships never worked out as I had hoped.
  • I couldn’t work something out or figure how to complete a particular task.

Can you think of anything from the past or currently, that you are taking as a personal blow?How do you feel emotionally or physically as a result? 

Non-identification concept

One phenomenal technique I use is called the non-identification concept. By not identifying with that blow and not seeing it as a part of me, helps my recovery time increase a thousand-fold. As a result, I feel better more often.

Are you fed up with taking all your blows personally? 

Then give me, Irwin Edgehill a call on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and whilst you are here, have a read of some of my previous blogs which I believe you’ll also find of help! You’ll find them at: https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Is Fear forcing you to give up? Then call on your Heart’s Courage to continue!

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This blog post will be disliked by many. Because so many people have a fear of fear.

To one degree or another, almost everyone lives in fear whether consciously or unconsciously. Mostly because they are unable to take care of themselves in their inner and their outside world. 

Understanding fear is the elixir in curing it.

Trembling and shaking physically, emotionally, and psychologically, at the prospect of another challenging day, month, or year from fear of their finances, relationships, work, and health. Many, feel fear is so mysteriously varied to try and understand it. Without realising that understanding is the elixir in curing it.

Don’t surrender to your fear!

Fearing their strength isn’t adequate or that their wisdom won’t be able to meet their predicament. Many people embark on a desperate search, looking for a solution to whatever they fear in the wrong and quite often dark places. At the same time asking the wrong questions, which only ever yields the wrong answers. Forcing them to surrender to whatever they are fearing, which only perpetuates their fears.

As you are reading this, take a moment to stop and ask yourself: “Can you feel any fear running through you?”Regardless of its size, are you tired of suppressing your fear with the wrong medicinal tools, be they recreational or over the counter ones?

Put an end to your fears.

If your answer is yes, then contact me on 07842 435921 or email  info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk I’ll help you put an end to your fears so you can live heart-fully, in your everyday life. 

And whilst you are here, have a read of my previous blogs, which I believe will resonate with you. You will find them at https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you tiptoeing through life to safely make it to your death?

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Are you one of the many who fear life? Then the following is worth pondering:

  • Do you start your day only to find yourself thinking that you can’t wait for the day to end?
  • When you are at work or doing chores, do you find yourself watching the clock because you are desperate to be somewhere else?
  • Are you looking forward to retirement because you’d rather be somewhere else, than at work?
  • Towards the end of summer, do you find yourself dreading winter and as a result can’t wait for summer to come around again?

All the above were constant thoughts and behaviours in my own life. Then someone asked me this question, if I was tiptoeing through my life to safely make it to my death. My answer after I had pondered it was a resounding, YES. 

It was a shocking realisation, that most of my life was spent wishing my days and life away without realising it! By trying to avoid my miserable situation and the resulting emotional pain it was causing me. 

I was in this predicament because I did not know or was not made aware of what life is fundamentally all about. If pressed for an answer I would have said: “It’s about acquiring things and people.”  Since I was not doing any of those things it was no wonder, I felt the way I did.

Concentrating my energy and efforts on living in the present

It was only when an incredibly sophisticated man told me that, in the main, life is all about emotional evolution. To become a more balanced, whole person, and the more you work on the inner side of yourself the more you won’t be wishing for the future anymore. Because you would be concentrating all your energies and efforts on the now and living in the present.

It took me a while to fully understand this truth. Because of the way society tries to, and often succeeds, in manipulating the many to be always looking forward to the next thrill. Be that a holiday, a new car, relationships, house, a qualification, or more money. 

There’s nothing wrong in wanting things!

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting or having those things mentioned above. However, there is something fundamentally wrong in getting carried away with them. To a point where you have lost sight of the present and as a result find yourself wishing your days away in pursuit of those things.

So, the next time you find yourself looking forward to the future, ask yourself is it because you don’t like the present? If so, contact me, Irwin Edgehill on 07842 435 921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and I will help you stay in the present to live a longer more fulfilling life.  And whilst you are here, why not have a read of my previous blogs www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

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As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I delivered on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you really want from life?”  Their responses included:

  • I want to be happy.
  • I want good mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
  • I want to be financially independent.
  • I want peace of mind.
  • I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, and family.
  • I want a good job.
  • I want a nice house with a garden.
  • I want to go on nice holidays regularly.
  • I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol.
  • I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something or someone.
  • I want to have the courage to say I am NOT alright instead of pretending that I am. 

I continued: “Have you got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.  

This was not a surprise to me.  Most people really do want to ‘live on easy street’, having good emotional and physical health, wealth, peace, happiness, and good relationships.  Unfortunately, in so many cases the vast majority will never achieve it. Not because they can’t, but more crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan. 

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street? 

  • Do you have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?  
  • Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition? 
  • Are you seeking the right authentic help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact me, Irwin Edgehill and I will help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. You can also read my previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Overwhelmed by your feelings

Painful feelings cannot enter a conscious mind. 

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the feelings that go through your mind in any given moment? Are these feelings painful and in many cases very painful? Then please read on….. 

Whether you believe it or not, it’s a fact that many people to one degree or another suffer needlessly from misleading hostile voices within their minds. All of us are a target and are affected! Depending on how consciously aware we are of our thoughts throughout the day, will impact on how well we can do something holistic to combat them.

I recently delivered a Self-Esteem workshop when one of the participants asked:

“Irwin, is it possible to go through a week let alone a day, without having painful feelings and suffering majorly as a result, about something that happened in the past or is happening now?”

Authentic piece of mind
My response to her sophisticated question. And I say sophisticated because it is our actions to questions such as these that will begin to bring authentic peace of mind from painful feelings. But only if we are willing to take the steps and make the sacrifices required to live emotionally, psychologically, and mentally pain free of such feelings.

  • Are you willing to sacrifice 30 minutes each and every day to enter a conscious mind? 
    Before you start any task including work or looking after the children you need to spend time to gather your thoughts. Being mindful of negative thoughts from the past or present, you need to put yourself in a state of gratitude for the things you have now instead of being focused on the things you don’t have.
  • Are you willing to stop giving added energy to negative thoughts?
    Realising that focusing on them, as you do now, will do nothing but perpetuate those painful feelings.
  • Are you willing to persist with this new way of living and being? 
    It may seem like an incredibly daunting task for the first few weeks or even months, but it is virtually impossible to achieve anything of any real value without being fully committed.
  • Are you willing to ignore any negative put downs from others?
    There will be those who will be secretly or openly against you trying to free your mind. To escape from the tyranny of those painful feelings, you may have to decide to leave those types of people behind!

If you can say YES to all the above, then congratulations you have a real chance of a positive breakthrough. The next step is to get in touch.

Let us help you become one of the few who’s painful feelings no longer cause a major problem for them each and every day because they are consciously awake to prevent it.  

Contact Irwin Edgehill training by calling 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and let us help you begin your journey of authentic emotional, mental and psychological salvation.

No will no way

Where there is NO WILL, there will be NO WIN!

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Fed up in your job and looking to do something different?  Got that big business idea which you want to turn into reality? Have you already  started out on your own but it’s not quite working out? Do you have the WILL to WIN?

WILL you do the things today that WILL get your career or your business where you want to be tomorrow, next month, next year and the years’ after that? Have you got the right help in place to ensure you get there?  Unfortunately, if you haven’t got the WILL you will never WIN. You will never achieve the things you want to achieve. 

Sadly, many people use WILL the wrong way which is the main reason they don’t and won’t WIN any of the above.  This makes them feel depressed, stressed, anxious and lacking in confidence. I say ‘sadly’ because in my own experience of working on myself and in turn helping others to do the same, it doesn’t have to be this way.  If you use WILL in the way it is intended, you WILL positively win.

If you are currently saying to yourself any of the following, then STOP!

  • I WILL never get that dream job
  • I WILL never get that promotion
  • I WILL never launch my business
  • I WILL never get any clients
  • I WILL never make my business a success

So, all you need is WILL!  The question is how can you get it?  Who can you call on to get the help and support you need? Well look no further than Irwin Edgehill Training. Let us help you WILL yourself to success.  Contact us via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921 to begin the journey.

Dare to do the right thing

Always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences

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Have you ever avoided making a decision, failed to attend an important meeting or not completed an activity because of the possible consequences? Have you ever reflected on your decision and in hindsight regretted it? I’m guessing the answer is probably ‘YES’.

During a recent workshop I was running on Emotional Intelligence someone asked Tony, a successful businessman: “With your busy schedule how come you are here today?” He gestured and replied: “I can’t afford to miss a session like this one. Even if it means I might lose out on a sale or have a backlog of emails to answer and calls to make when I get back to the office.”

It then occurred to me that Tony was ‘daring to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. Which made me wonder how many other people ‘dare to do the right thing’ regardless of the consequences. For example do people dare do the right thing in their relationships whether they be business, platonic or romantic? Do people dare do the right thing with their health and the health of their loved ones?

This topic resonated with everyone in the workshop so much that we used the rest of the session to stay with it. We all identified and reflected on some of our own life choices and decisions. We challenged ourselves to consider whether we would make the same decisions again if we were daring to do the right thing. You can probably guess that many participants felt they would have acted differently.

What areas of your life are you NOT daring to do the right thing?

What decisions have you made that in hindsight you would change? Do you have the confidence to dare to do the right thing even if there are consequences? Have you sought help in order to gain the courage to start to do the right thing? At Irwin Edgehill Training we believe that if you do look for the right support and guidance it will undoubtedly transform your life and the lives of those around you for the better.

Need some help to get started and dare to do the right thing?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training to see how we can help you build the confidence and assertiveness needed to enable you to always dare to do the right thing regardless of the consequences. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Emotional intelligence in the classroom

Transforming our educational system

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Now is the time to add a new lesson to a pupil’s time table. Whether at school, college or university classes on ‘Emotional Intelligence’ that focus on self-awareness, emotional control, self-motivation, empathy and relationship skills can only produce positive outcomes. What better way to transform our educational system and offer students ways to boost their learning, friendships, academic success and employment.

These lessons without doubt would help solve so may challenges facing our children, society and the education system as a whole. It will be like laying a foundation to build a house. If the foundation of a house is built on rock it can more or less withstand most storms that come its way. For our children these storms include those faced in a turbulent home, through difficult relationships with friends or family as well as struggles at school.

The foundations of Emotional Intelligence acts on the same principle. Let’s teach pupils how to:

• Manage their stress and anger
• Be more assertive in the right way
• Call on resilience when needed
• Gain confidence

By doing so pupils will find it infinitely easier to perform well in class, get good grades, build stronger and healthier relationships with their peers as well as have more respect for the teachers. Thus everyone wins. The pupil, the school, the teachers, and society as a whole.

Interested? Want to find out more?
Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer that focus on enhancing individuals Emotional Intelligence . Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.