Stress Management – Irwin Edgehill Training

Is Fear forcing you to give up? Then call on your Heart’s Courage to continue!

by Irwin EdgehillAugust 4, 2023August 4, 20233 Comments

This blog post will be disliked by many. Because so many people have a fear of fear.

To one degree or another, almost everyone lives in fear whether consciously or unconsciously. Mostly because they are unable to take care of themselves in their inner and their outside world.

Understanding fear is the elixir in curing it.

Trembling and shaking physically, emotionally, and psychologically, at the prospect of another challenging day, month, or year from fear of their finances, relationships, work, and health. Many, feel fear is so mysteriously varied to try and understand it. Without realising that understanding is the elixir in curing it.

Don’t surrender to your fear!

Fearing their strength isn’t adequate or that their wisdom won’t be able to meet their predicament. Many people embark on a desperate search, looking for a solution to whatever they fear in the wrong and quite often dark places. At the same time asking the wrong questions, which only ever yields the wrong answers. Forcing them to surrender to whatever they are fearing, which only perpetuates their fears.

As you are reading this, take a moment to stop and ask yourself: “Can you feel any fear running through you?”Regardless of its size, are you tired of suppressing your fear with the wrong medicinal tools, be they recreational or over the counter ones?

Put an end to your fears.

If your answer is yes, then contact me on 07842 435921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk I’ll help you put an end to your fears so you can live heart-fully, in your everyday life.

And whilst you are here, have a read of my previous blogs, which I believe will resonate with you. You will find them at https://irwinedgehilltraining.com/blog/

Are you tiptoeing through life to safely make it to your death?

by Irwin EdgehillJuly 3, 2023July 3, 2023

Are you one of the many who fear life? Then the following is worth pondering:

Do you start your day only to find yourself thinking that you can’t wait for the day to end?
When you are at work or doing chores, do you find yourself watching the clock because you are desperate to be somewhere else?
Are you looking forward to retirement because you’d rather be somewhere else, than at work?
Towards the end of summer, do you find yourself dreading winter and as a result can’t wait for summer to come around again?

All the above were constant thoughts and behaviours in my own life. Then someone asked me this question, if I was tiptoeing through my life to safely make it to my death. My answer after I had pondered it was a resounding, YES.

It was a shocking realisation, that most of my life was spent wishing my days and life away without realising it! By trying to avoid my miserable situation and the resulting emotional pain it was causing me.

I was in this predicament because I did not know or was not made aware of what life is fundamentally all about. If pressed for an answer I would have said: “It’s about acquiring things and people.” Since I was not doing any of those things it was no wonder, I felt the way I did.

Concentrating my energy and efforts on living in the present

It was only when an incredibly sophisticated man told me that, in the main, life is all about emotional evolution. To become a more balanced, whole person, and the more you work on the inner side of yourself the more you won’t be wishing for the future anymore. Because you would be concentrating all your energies and efforts on the now and living in the present.

It took me a while to fully understand this truth. Because of the way society tries to, and often succeeds, in manipulating the many to be always looking forward to the next thrill. Be that a holiday, a new car, relationships, house, a qualification, or more money.

There’s nothing wrong in wanting things!

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting or having those things mentioned above. However, there is something fundamentally wrong in getting carried away with them. To a point where you have lost sight of the present and as a result find yourself wishing your days away in pursuit of those things.

So, the next time you find yourself looking forward to the future, ask yourself is it because you don’t like the present? If so, contact me, Irwin Edgehill on 07842 435 921 or email info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk and I will help you stay in the present to live a longer more fulfilling life. And whilst you are here, why not have a read of my previous blogs www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Have you got what it takes to live on easy street?

by Irwin EdgehillJune 5, 20231 Comment

As an ice breaker in a recent workshop I delivered on ‘Relationships’ I asked the participants: “What do you really want from life?” Their responses included:

I want to be happy.
I want good mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
I want to be financially independent.
I want peace of mind.
I want healthy relationships with my wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, and family.
I want a good job.
I want a nice house with a garden.
I want to go on nice holidays regularly.
I want to be free of street drugs and alcohol.
I want to be able to go 24 hours without worrying about something or someone.
I want to have the courage to say I am NOT alright instead of pretending that I am.

I continued: “Have you got the burning desire, a plan and the right help to achieve these things?” Unsurprisingly, NO hands went up.

This was not a surprise to me. Most people really do want to ‘live on easy street’, having good emotional and physical health, wealth, peace, happiness, and good relationships. Unfortunately, in so many cases the vast majority will never achieve it. Not because they can’t, but more crucially they haven’t got the deep burning desire needed to start, aided by the right help and plan.

How about you? Have you got what is needed to live on easy street?

Do you have a burning desire to achieve the changes necessary to live on easy street?

Do you have conviction in your ideas as well as the confidence and assertiveness needed to bring them to fruition?

Are you seeking the right authentic help to support you in achieving the life you desire?

If the answer is NO then contact me, Irwin Edgehill and I will help you make that desire a reality. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921. You can also read my previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

There is something other than Darkness!

by Irwin EdgehillMay 9, 20232 Comments

Are you feeling your emotional darkness will never end? Do you believe that this state is where you’ll always be? Unfortunately, many people go through life in emotional, mental, psychological, and spiritual darkness believing that this state is where they will always be. Never for one second believing that there is something other than darkness.

Look around to see the darkness

Don’t take my word for it. The next time you are out, observe the people around you, particularly when they aren’t aware that you are watching. You’ll see their faces of gloom and darkness.

As I sit here writing this blog it’s occurred to me that much of my life has been spent in darkness. The darkness was perpetuated because of my mistaken belief that this was all there was for me. I found myself:

Being secretly envious of others who had what I thought I couldn’t have
Pretending I was happy when I wasn’t
Thinking I was emotionally strong when I was weak
Yearning for authentic love without knowing how to attract it
Despising the hypocrisy of the world but at the same time wanting to be a part of it
Staying in relationships because I didn’t have the courage to stand alone

But there is something other than darkness

My question for you to ponder is this: What is your dominant mood when no one is around or watching you? If it’s darkness, don’t you think that it’s time to question if there is something else. How much more of it can you take before it gets too much? Because there is something other than darkness, it’s called self-development.

Move away from the darkness and into the light

It is only when we develop ourselves inwardly that we move away from darkness and into the light. As mentioned in a previous blog, this to a small minority of emotionally sophisticated souls is very elementary, but for the vast majority that aren’t, it sadly isn’t.

If you really want something other than your current darkness then prove it to yourself and get some authentic help and guidance by contacting Irwin Edgehill Training on 07842 435 921 or info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk. You can also read our previous blogs by visiting www.irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk

Is sending everyone to the Psychiatrist the right approach?

by Irwin EdgehillJanuary 25, 2022January 25, 20222 Comments

Do you believe other people are entirely responsible for all your continued issues? Are you going to have to book them all in to see a psychiatrist for you to get better?

Unfortunately, many people do believe this to be the case. But ask yourself honestly, do you feel any better emotionally or spiritually thinking this? What are your relationships like, as a result, are they harmonious ones?

I’m guessing if you are truly honest with yourself then the answer is more than likely going to be a resounding NO. This is brilliant news for you and your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. It’s also just as important for your nearest and dearest. They too will feel infinitely better knowing that you are finally getting on the road to recovery by positively changing the way you are thinking about your issues.

Why brilliant news?
I say brilliant news because of the fact you can now put yourself in the position of working through the pounding persistence of these issues, some of them being deep seated views.

Get the right help!
By getting the help of an organically competent therapist. They will help to positively guide you out of the emotional swamp that these constant, painful, thoughts and feelings have put you in. And eventually they will help you make those issues either vanish or become a lot lighter than they are now.

Without doubt, we have all been wronged or negatively misguided in the past or present, some of us more harshly than others. My point is we have already emotionally paid for this, we don’t have to keep continually paying for it day after day, month after month, and year after year. What we need to do is first try to recognise the fact that there is no positive value in thinking that everyone else is responsible for how we continue to feel, and as a result act.

Get in touch
So why not free yourself from the pounding persistence of your issues and contact Irwin Edgehill Training for a far cheaper and more effective option than sending everyone to the psychiatrist in order to make you feel better. Call 07842 435291 or send a message to info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk Let us help you make this a thing of the past.

There really is a cure for your workplace stress

by Irwin EdgehillJanuary 21, 2020February 10, 2020

How are you feeling? How is your morale? Is it low and impacting on your productivity and creativity? Then it’s quite likely that you are suffering from the impact of work place stress.

Having worked with a wide range of individuals at many levels of organisations who have dealt with the negative effects of workplace stress, it’s a fact that those who recognise and address this increasingly common affliction get the most out of their working lives.

In a recent labour force survey it was stated that:
• Staff take an average of 12 sick days a year, also 60- to 80% of primary care doctor visits are related to stress, yet only 3% of patients receive stress management help (JAMA Intern Med. 2013; 173(1): 76-77).
• The American Psychological report stated that 42 % of Americans report lying awake at night due to stress.

So where do you begin?

• Firstly and most importantly recognise that your emotional wellbeing is key to increasing productivity and creativity.
• Acknowledge that wellbeing doesn’t mean treating yourself to a cake or chocolates every now and again or coming to work on a Friday dressed casually. Even taking a holiday doesn’t really work as unless you deal with your workplace stress before you go, you only end up taking it with you.
• Consider how you really feel about the working environment, the way you are being managed or your current workload.
• Ensure that your organisation understands and recognises staff wellbeing and stress in the workplace. The days of ‘just get on with it and pull yourself together’ just don’t work in today’s always on, increasingly demanding working environment.
• Realise the value and benefit of investing time and money in your emotional wellbeing. See it as an investment in the business as you would a new piece of machinery or marketing campaign.
• Put in place a commitment and structure that recognises the value and benefit from regular life coaching sessions that cover stress management, assertiveness, mindfulness and self-esteem.

Recognise the situation? Want to begin to introduce the cure?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer to begin to address work place stress. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Managing student exam stress

by Irwin EdgehillJanuary 15, 2020February 7, 2020

What a great day. We are just back from working with students at Tregonwell Academy in Bournemouth, helping them manage exam stress.

Throughout the day we worked with groups of year 11 students to find the best ways they can prepare for and take their forthcoming mock exams without being stressed. During our workshops we first gave them an introduction about the root causes of stress and then information on how it can be combated.

The combat came in the form of showing them simple breathing techniques, aided using visual on screen data through the Emwave stress machine which highlights when an individual is in positive coherence or in other words ‘stressless’.

The end result: The students felt more confident and optimistic about taking their exams, giving them a better chance of obtaining the grades they want to achieve.

Thanks to IAG Lead Holly Andrews at Tregonwell Academy for helping to organise the workshops. We are looking forward to returning again soon.

Do you think your students could benefit from a better understanding of what stress really is? Interested in exploring how we can help your students. Then contact Irwin Edgehill Training via Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

There really is a cure for workplace stress

by Irwin EdgehillAugust 1, 2019September 10, 2019

Confident that you are getting the most from your employees?

Has staff turnover or absenteeism increased? Is staff morale low and with it productivity and creativity? Then it’s quite likely that your business is suffering from the impact of work place stress.

Having worked with a wide range of organisations for many years who have dealt with the negative effects of workplace stress, it’s a fact that those who recognise and address this increasingly common affliction get the most out of their staff.

In a recent labour force survey it was stated that:
• Staff take an average of 12 sick days a year, also 60- to 80% of primary care doctor visits are related to stress, yet only 3% of patients receive stress management help (JAMA Intern Med. 2013; 173(1): 76-77).
• The American Psychological report stated that 42 % of Americans report lying awake at night due to stress.

So where do you begin?

• Firstly and most importantly recognise that emotional wellbeing of your staff is key to increasing productivity, creativity, staff retention as well as reducing absenteeism.
• Acknowledge that staff wellbeing doesn’t mean treating staff to a cake or box of chocolates every now and again or letting them come to work on a Friday dressed casually.
• Empower your staff to tell you how they really feel about the working environment, the way they are being managed or their current workload.
• Ensure that your managers are trained to understand and recognise staff wellbeing and stress in the workplace. The days of ‘just get on with it and pull yourself together’ just don’t work in today’s always on, increasingly demanding working environment.
• Realise the value and benefit of investing time and money in your employees emotional wellbeing. See it as an investment in the business as you would a new piece of machinery or marketing campaign.
• Put in place a commitment and structure were all your employees recognise the value and benefit from regular life coaching sessions that cover stress management, assertiveness, mindfulness and self-esteem.

Recognise the situation? Want to begin to introduce the cure?

Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer to organisation like yours to begin to address work place stress. Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.

Transforming our educational system

by Irwin EdgehillAugust 1, 2019September 10, 2019

Now is the time to add a new lesson to a pupil’s time table. Whether at school, college or university classes on ‘Emotional Intelligence’ that focus on self-awareness, emotional control, self-motivation, empathy and relationship skills can only produce positive outcomes. What better way to transform our educational system and offer students ways to boost their learning, friendships, academic success and employment.

These lessons without doubt would help solve so may challenges facing our children, society and the education system as a whole. It will be like laying a foundation to build a house. If the foundation of a house is built on rock it can more or less withstand most storms that come its way. For our children these storms include those faced in a turbulent home, through difficult relationships with friends or family as well as struggles at school.

The foundations of Emotional Intelligence acts on the same principle. Let’s teach pupils how to:

• Manage their stress and anger
• Be more assertive in the right way
• Call on resilience when needed
• Gain confidence

By doing so pupils will find it infinitely easier to perform well in class, get good grades, build stronger and healthier relationships with their peers as well as have more respect for the teachers. Thus everyone wins. The pupil, the school, the teachers, and society as a whole.

Interested? Want to find out more?
Contact us at Irwin Edgehill Training and discuss our range of services and solutions we offer that focus on enhancing individuals Emotional Intelligence . Email: info@irwinedgehilltraining.co.uk or call 07842 435921.